The Whole effing school!

[Skeletal-Chic]

Okay, first off I want to say sorry if this has been but into the wrong category, there are three different places I could put this since the problem involves several areas so I'm sorry if this needs be moved.

So, my problem is, I have been single for all of my teen life and I really feel like it's time I got into a relationship. I'm fully aware that the relationship won't be anything long term but I feel like I need to have a special someone in my life. This might sound desperate, but I really don't want to be an inexperienced and clueless boyfriend.

That's bad enough as it is without the majority of my school thinking I'm gay. I'm a late bloomer so I don't have a very hairy body and I'm not muscular, though I am tall and my voice has broken already, which makes them more certain of my sexuality ( I am well aware that physical appearance doesn't affect sexuality ). I also take part in all the dramatic/musical/theatrical parts of the school. I love being a performer and it's what I want to do as a career but I can't stand the stigma it comes with and the fact that I am totally without hope of ever getting a girlfriend at the school.

I know you might say that I should try and get a girlfriend outside of school but the bullying and stigma I've gotten have utterly cripples my self esteem and those of you who have spoken to me via PM or MSN know how paranoid I can get. I don't know anyone and I'm too shy to meet new people from out of school.

And please don't tell me that having a relationship or a girl-friend isn't important and that there are other things in life at this point, but it is important to me.

Thanks for any help you can give me

BC xoxox

[DayBreakArt]

Aww. *hugs* You know I love you. (: If you enjoy the theater I'd suggest getting into a drama club outside of school. It's all about confidence and courage love. Just work on it. Start small. Just saying hi to the girl you like. It'll get there love. (:

[Skeletal-Chic]

Thanks Steph :) love you too :D xoxo

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Not all girls will listen to the cruel rumors these people at your school say.
I's suggest try talking and getting to know the girls in your drama club and other extra activities you do, that way you already know that you have something in common.

[Garrett14]

just meet girls in your drama clubs and theatre programs. thats what you love to do, so you should interact with people who like that too. plus thats a good relationship foundation, a common ground

[Art_dude]

Good advice Garrett14.
Meeting girls within musical theater means you will have similar interests and aren't necessarily within the bigger 'school' bubble.

[cherry_boi]

lol ....u.... paranoid?! noooooooo......

(sarcasm)

lol i luv you! >.<

umm well u seem to be ur own biggest obstacle in this situation, i can totally understand how crippling other people's "disapproval" of you can be....especially when it's day after day

but if u start buying into what they are saying ur gunna sabotage urself

look at it this way.....will u be any worse off if u just go up to a cute girl and start flirting with her, ask her out and she turns you down? not really....small blow to the pride and u move on.

if u don't go for it u'll never get it, u miss out 100% of the time if u don't try

there are alot of girls out there who don't like the "macho-jock" type of guy and are into the more creative, funny, sensitive, kind of dude

i'm sure being in the drama scene u have plenty of opportunities to meet girls, and if for some reason ALL of them have this tainted view of you cuz of what other ppl r saying, if u just start talking ot them, flirting with them a little their opinion will probly change pretty quickly.....people believe what they have seen/experienced more then what they have heard from word-of-mouth....so if u show them that ur into girls and can be funny/kind/charming that's what they're gunna believe...

and ur right, most relationships at our age don't last long....but it's good practice for later so i can see why u'd feel like ur missing out

if u really want it u gotta make it happen, chances are that a relationship isn't gunna fall into ur lap without u putting urself out there

and ur uber cute soo just go for it!

[Iron Man]

Life is all about taking chances. I understand what you feel ( having low self esteem from bullying ). But if you don`t try now, then it might affect you later in life.