help!

[Asylum]

so i found out this one guy likes me today... i'd never date him... i've seen his past relationships and they were awful. it was more of a physical thing.. i'm not into that, and i'm definately not interested in him, he is a jerk! he asked me to the movies... and he keeps flirting with me, oh i'm sorry you and scott broke up, etc. your cute, you didn't deserved to be hurt like that.... i'm like huh? this is the first time i'm talking to you in over 2 years... i'm like hwat? you have no idea why our relationship ended... but i don't want to be mean, i wouldnt mind going to ht movies with him if there was a group and he thought we were going as FRIENDS... even though i wouldn't call us freidns... more of an aquantence... so how do i politely tell him i'm not interestted.... ? because i don't want to hurt him, or lead him on.

[Kaius]

Just tell him that you're flattered, but you aren't ready for another relationship yet, or that he isn't your type. If you feel uncomfortable going to the movies alone with him, why not say to him about making it a group thing with a few more people, it'll make it a bit more comfortable for you, and you wouldn't be rejecting his offer.

[Marcie]

If I were in that situation, I'd just say "No, I don't want to go out with/date you."
Don't say things like; "I'm sorry, but I don't like you like that." or "You're a great guy but.." That leaves the door open for him to keep persisting and pursuing you. And could lead him on.
Also if you way you want to make it a group thing he might (and if he likes you he probably will) take it as a you like him kinda thing..

[Asylum]

thank you guys, i did tell him last night actaully combining what you both said. thank you for your help :)

[Marcie]

thank you guys, i did tell him last night actaully combining what you both said. thank you for your help :)

You're welcome :-)


What did you say?

[cherry_boi]

if you don't want to lead him on be straightforward with him, use ur past relationship as an excuse if you need to

simply tell him your not interested in dating anyone right now, and that your flattered but not interested in any kind of romantic relationship with him.

if you want add that you wouldn't be opposed to hanging out as friends in groups....as long as that wouldn't encourage any more advances.


*edit*

lol and now i see that u already told him

<sigh>

[Asylum]

cherry boi, thank you i said somethign rather similair to that, but thank you for yoru help.
i said basically after he had asked me, will there be other people he siad if i wanted or just us, then i said i was uncomfortable with the idea of hanging out alone with him becaus i am not interested in another relationship right now, but if we got more people to go, i'd be go to the movies as a group with him, so he said ok and we are inviting Jesse and a few others along.

[Marcie]

That is going to lead him on.