if she leaves, it'll be all my fault.

[georgiamay]

last night me and my step mum had a massive fight. we haven't been getting along lately, and we've just been driving each other mad. i love her so much, i mean i've been living with her for 10 years.

but last night she said if i didn't change that either she'd kick me out, or she'd leave my dad. she said that she didnt want to kick me out, because then she'd feel guilty because she would have sent away her husbands daughter, and that's not fair on him, so it had to be her leaving. i told her i didnt want her to leave, but she said that i'd have to change, otherwise she'd go and live with her dad. i said i'd change, but then she said she didnt think i could, because she'd told me i needed to change before and i never did. i know when parents get divorced people say to the kids, "oh dont worry, it's not your fault" but this time it really would be my fault if she left.

she left early this morning and went to stay at her dads. she said it wasnt permanent, but she just needed to get away for a few days. if she does leave, then how am i supposed to look at my dad again? i caused his wife to leave, how can i ever look him in the eye again??

i'm going to try and change, but i'm scared it will be too late, what should i do? :/

[mrmcdonaldduck]

well, you obviously need to sit down and talk with your parents about what you have been doing wrong, and work out ways to stop it. After that you should probably apologise to your stepmum and start behaving.

[Sith Lord 13]

You need to sit down with both of your parents and talk about what's working and what's not. No one is ever completely at fault for things not working out. If your actions caused the end of their relationship, then it wasn't a strong one to begin with. That said, you three need to sit down and talk about what each of you can do to improve the situation. If the three of you can come up with a plan and all stick to it, there is a good chance things will work out.

[Art_dude]

You need to sit BOTH of your parents down and discuss this issue. You really do need to put the effort in your relationship towards your stepmother to make things better but it HAS to come from a place of mutual understanding NOT out of fear of her kicking you out or leaving your dad. I'm not defending you, but it was inappropriate and wrong of your stepmother to threaten leaving your father. As for the courage to change, I completely understand. Any habitual behavior takes courage to overcome. Be proud of yourself for at least recognizing the problem and desiring change. That's the first step. PM me if needed. I hope this resolves itself :)

[DayBreakArt]

Agree with what's said above. You need to have a nice long talk about this because shes giving a huge ultimatum. I see how much you care about them both and clearly you dont want her to leave. You all need to be trying. Find out what the issues are and try to find a way to solve them. But as said, you need to talk. Definately need to talk.