Help: shyness

[vanmartin]

When i like someone im usually already friends with them
is this good or bad?
Also i want to ask them out
Should i ask them to the movies, mall, my house, other?
Any tips for me?

[Aves]

Being friends with a person and wanting to ask them out has its ups and downs in my opinion. In some cases you get lucky. They feel the same exact way about you. In others however, you aren't as lucky. But that's one advantage. If they don't feel the same way about you, well they might just let you know that, and you can still go on being friends.

Now, lets say you ask this person out, and they say yes. Well, you've moved on to another level. The risk in this is that it gets EXTREMELY awkward after the break up, and potentially lose a good friend.

As for your question regarding where to take them, that's your call.

[Art_dude]

Pretty much exactly what Aves said. There are pros and cons to all those situations. As for the shyness thing, you'll just have to work on it. What's the best way to get over your fears? facing them head on. Same thing with shyness. What's the complete opposite of shyness? Being outgoing. Train yourself in baby steps by being more outgoing with things and you'll be surprised how quickly your attitude changes.

[vanmartin]

thanks for the help and ya ive been trying to talk to this girl more and not to be shy and i think im getting less shy