I have a question

[Tanner]

maybe this has been posted before,but i don't know. I was just wondering to all you bi and gay folks out there if some of you believe your sexuality was determined by past events i.e. experimenting. i am not sure. but i want to know your opinion...thanks :)

Jacob!

[Aspiringanonymous]

It would be more fitting to say that experimenting confirms one's suspicions/curiosity.

Yes, many come to identify themselves as non-heterosexual after at least some degree of experimentation. The experiences do not necessarily shape who we are, rather, it brings out what already dwells within us.

[Carfreakjack]

Well iv never experimented with anyone else and I consider myself bi.

[Johnny_John]

I consider myself bi since of emotional and physical attraction.
my belief is that it's at birth and at puberty they start to take affect...

[SneakBrain]

normal

[MichaelAdams1993]

Ahh the big question, tons of people have been trying to figure out what causes homosexuality and bisexuality. Many also believe they have found the answer. The usual ideas are that it is 1)A disease 2)From the way your were brought up, nurture 3)Simply who you are from the moment your born, nature. I believe it comes from a combo of both nurture and nature or in some cases maybe just one. Personally I believe I am gay because I was partly born that way, proof of this is because I have been involved with friends from a very young age, you may call it experimenting but it still shows ME how long I have been interested in men. Also, when I was only 2 years old my parents split. I lived with my mom for years before she met my step-dad and I didn't see much of my dad then. I think that part of my close relationship with her has led to some of the more feminen qualities I have. For some people who are close with there parent of the same sex from birth they are still gay. This is where nature comes into play. It is all really different and I think your going to get a lot of posts in this section.

I want to add real quickly though to anyone who reads this that it NOT a parents fault for the way you are. It is you and that is all. It isn't fair to blame them and even if they contributed it is not because of them , they may simply have nurtured your already existing side. Blaming people for who you are is never a good thing and it NEVER ends in a good place.

[nick]

I can only speak for myself, not as a general rule. I do not believe it to be the case. My actions are driven by my sexuality, it is not the other way round.

[YourFriend]

I can only speak for myself, not as a general rule. I do not believe it to be the case. My actions are driven by my sexuality, it is not the other way round.

Same for me.

[VeniVidiVici]

It would be more fitting to say that experimenting confirms one's suspicions/curiosity.

Yes, many come to identify themselves as non-heterosexual after at least some degree of experimentation. The experiences do not necessarily shape who we are, rather, it brings out what already dwells within us.

Im going to have to disagree.
I personally figured out i was Bi in grade 6, 5 years before i started experimenting.
I also have friends that were curious, experimented and figured out that it wasnt for them and stayed straight

[Aspiringanonymous]

Im going to have to disagree.
I personally figured out i was Bi in grade 6, 5 years before i started experimenting.
I also have friends that were curious, experimented and figured out that it wasnt for them and stayed straight
Of course; I said many and not all. Everyone is different, but from what I've seen, many are reluctant to officially identify themselves until they feel a good degree of certainty - which is something that experimentation can assert.

[Wonder.]

I believe you're born gay. If a gay person can't become straight as an adult, how can a child become gay? To me it only makes sense.

Just another little blurb that has something to do with this: Who cares if you are born or raised gay? You're gay and that's all that matters. And why do scientists try to figure out how people are gay? Waste money on something useful.

[Nickk XD]

They are interested in knowing what causes everything.

Since many people consider non-heterosexuality a disease, they're attempting to figure out exactly what causes it. What is different in the brain? Well, the difference is a brain of a homosexual is similarly shaped to that of a girl (the lobes are a little different than a regular males)...this has been verified. But now what causes that? Well different levels of hormones released before you're born...that's been verified. Now how can they change and determine your sexuality before you're born? That's what they're trying to figure out.

They are hoping to determine your sexuality prior to birth and be able to alter it.

Recently (like March 3) Scientists found a specific gene related to homosexuality...now they're trying to figure out more about this gene. Since they've found a gene, it's a good possibility that homosexuality may be hereditary.



Just another little blurb that has something to do with this: Who cares if you are born or raised gay? You're gay and that's all that matters. And why do scientists try to figure out how people are gay? Waste money on something useful.

[Wonder.]

They are interested in knowing what causes everything.

Since many people consider non-heterosexuality a disease, they're attempting to figure out exactly what causes it. What is different in the brain? Well, the difference is a brain of a homosexual is similarly shaped to that of a girl (the lobes are a little different than a regular males)...this has been verified. But now what causes that? Well different levels of hormones released before you're born...that's been verified. Now how can they change and determine your sexuality before you're born? That's what they're trying to figure out.

They are hoping to determine your sexuality prior to birth and be able to alter it.

Recently (like March 3) Scientists found a specific gene related to homosexuality...now they're trying to figure out more about this gene. Since they've found a gene, it's a good possibility that homosexuality may be hereditary.

Why do we need to know though? What difference does it make besides more abortions because parents don't want gay children? I guess I just fail to see the point if there is one...

[Nickk XD]

The goal is to give the parents the ability to alter genes and sexuality, before you're born...

Not necessarily abortion, they change your sexuality.

This is in the future...

Why do we need to know though? What difference does it make besides more abortions because parents don't want gay children? I guess I just fail to see the point if there is one...

[Wonder.]

The goal is to give the parents the ability to alter genes and sexuality, before you're born...

Not necessarily abortion, they change your sexuality.

This is in the future...

That's messing with nature and could rid the world of gays! Why mess with something that isn't even a problem?

[Nickk XD]

The gay community is strongly against.

Me, myself, trying to represent straight and gays as an activist and such, attempt to take no sides in this.

Religion and science, for the first time, have come to agree with this...eliminate the gays. Sounds similar to what Hitler did during WWII except this is with science and before anyone is ever born...

It is messing with nature but then comes the thing "doesn't the parents have the right?" That's for you to decide...

That's messing with nature and could rid the world of gays! Why mess with something that isn't even a problem?

[Wonder.]

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[DrkZ90]

I have never experimented with anyone
I have never had any kind of remotely sexual contact
I have never been raped or sexually abused by either sex
I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend or even had my first kiss

And I'm pretty certain that I'm gay...

So, if I had no "experiences" whatsoever, I doubt they have any influence on who you are. All I know is, I didn't choose to be gay, and I'd rather not be if I could.

[penguin13]

For me personally, I knew long before my first sexual contact or my first kiss etc that I liked boys. So I don't think this is the case for me but I'm not disputing that maybe for other gus that it could have been a contributing factor.