Is it just me, or is he a perv? :|

[1_21Guns]

my grandad (we're not related by blood, its my grandma's husband) acts really weird around me and other children - younger children.
whenever theres a small child around, he goes up to them, and smiles at them really weird... like he sorta shouldn't be. my family tell him to stop or someones going to think he's a kiddy fiddler or whatever you want to call it, but he never does.
then with me, it's weird. i always feel really uncomfortable around him, because ever since i was little, he's been that way with me too, smiling at me weird, staring at me. then if that wasn't weird enough, he used to like try to grab my legs or other parts of my body. he only stopped that a few months ago. but the staring hasn't stopped.
then last weekend i was over at my grandparents, i was in the bathroom and the door wasn't completely shut. i heard him coming up the stairs so i watched through the crack in the door where the hinges are to make sure he wouldnt try to come in. thats when i saw him looking through the gap in the door :|
then i just remember all the times when i was like younger and i stayed over at my grandparents. and i'd have a bath and my gran would take me downstairs to dry me, and i was right infront of him.. wearing nothing. and then when i was dressed, he'd tell me to sit on his knee.
i have 3 boy cousins, he's not like this with them. it's just me.
he's just always watching me, every move i make. and the ways he looks at me sometimes just knocks me sick.
i can't tell my mum or anything, they'd never believe me.
is this even a form of abuse or something? :|

sorry if this is in the wrong place, torn between this and family/friends, feel free to move.

[Fruit_Tart.]

thats jus nasty... you should be glad to be jus a marriage relation with him... i think that is a little bit too much of disturbing... thats invasion of personal space and he could go to jail for it...

[1_21Guns]

thats jus nasty... you should be glad to be jus a marriage relation with him... i think that is a little bit too much of disturbing... thats invasion of personal space and he could go to jail for it...

believe me, i'm so relieved he's not blood related. then it really would be beyond messed up :| i just always feel so violated when i'm around him, wondering what he could be thinking just makes me want to run so far away.

[TakeToTheSkies.]

I'm pretty sure that's at least some form of abuse, and if it's not, it's just not right. Maybe you should just stay away from him, until he figures out that you want him to stop.

[The Madman]

I think you should threaten him with your family there that if he doesnt stop then you will tell the police cause from what you have said he is definately a Pedo/Pervert. Dont threaten him alone though because he could get violent with you.
If your family know then they should help you as much as they can.

colour removed as it's distracting for readers: please don't post all in one colour - Night

[1_21Guns]

I'm pretty sure that's at least some form of abuse, and if it's not, it's just not right. Maybe you should just stay away from him, until he figures out that you want him to stop.

i've tried to stay away as much as i can, i think that's why he's stopped for now, i hope.

I think you should threaten him with your family there that if he doesnt stop then you will tell the police cause from what you have said he is definately a Pedo/Pervert.

Dont threaten him alone though because he could get violent with you.
If your family know then they should help you as much as they can.

i've thought about that, but i can't bring myself to do it, and i cant say anything in front of my family... with my family that just wouldn't end well.

p.s, i'm sure it's against some forum rule to post entirely in red. or that may have been because it's been edited. but yeah i'm not sure, so incase you didnt know, and incase i'm right XD
you are right yes, Please use the report button next time-Night

[Asylum]

is there anyone you are close to that is in your family who you could talk to about this? Maybe even outside the family, have them come over while yoru at your grandparents they will notice then, and perhaps tlak to your parents about it, having witnessed it and then you plus aother person outside the family would surely make somehtign happen. i defnately agree that the next step after this hsould be Ghosts.

[Frankenstein's Bride]

until he does something illegal or wrong don't go to the police or threaten your family unit. You could after all be making wrong assumptions and put everyone through hell for nothing. Be smart and don't do anything stupid until you have solid evidence.

[Brayden]

It may be best to just avoid the situation and your grandad if at all possible. As he's never done anything directly to you despite the obvious perving, which can be almost possible to prove, much less get him convicted for anything. You have no physical evidence of any of his 'creepiness' and with a clean track record, the burden of proof falls upon you to convince others (your family) that your grandfather isn't behaving appropriately around you.

It's definitely worth mentioning to a parent, preferably a mother type figure about the situation, and clearly stating your concerns. It may be awkward, and they may deny your accusations, but it would certainly make them more suspicious of your grandfather's actions. Then you may possibly have someone to corroborate your story, and thus help in getting your grandfather some help.

[Garrett14]

i think its sexual abuse

[Anonim]

someone taught me that ALL man, at least once, are pervs.. and your "grandad" it's obviously a perv. i use a weird technique so man don't look at me in an erotic way: to be as gross as i can possibly be:D.. i think you should just defend yourself, put him where he belongs. good luck

oh. and the "every man is a perv at least once" thing, is not an insult.. if anyone takes it as an insult i apologize

[1_21Guns]

someone taught me that ALL man, at least once, are pervs.. and your "grandad" it's obviously a perv. i use a weird technique so man don't look at me in an erotic way: to be as gross as i can possibly be:D.. i think you should just defend yourself, put him where he belongs. good luck

oh. and the "every man is a perv at least once" thing, is not an insult.. if anyone takes it as an insult i apologize

thanks hun, just one thing completely unrelated. try to edit your posts instead of posting another one, you'd get into trouble from a mod one day, i learnt my lesson XD
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and thanks everyone.

[Aceso]

Oh gosh, I would get someone fast!
He sounds like someone i wouldnt trust. You said he was trying to grab your legs etc.? well, it may/ may not be sexual abuse, depending where he is touching you. Please be carefull...

[Violetmonster]

he does sound like a right perv..
have you taken freinds there atall? girl ones.
you could try that, see how he looks at them, and if it's in the same way he looks at you?

[Anonim]

thanks hun, just one thing completely unrelated. try to edit your posts instead of posting another one, you'd get into trouble from a mod one day, i learnt my lesson XD
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and thanks everyone.

thanks for the lesson:D

[1_21Guns]

thanks for the lesson:D

welcome :]

[Blood]

my grandad (we're not related by blood, its my grandma's husband) acts really weird around me and other children - younger children.
whenever theres a small child around, he goes up to them, and smiles at them really weird... like he sorta shouldn't be. my family tell him to stop or someones going to think he's a kiddy fiddler or whatever you want to call it, but he never does.
then with me, it's weird. i always feel really uncomfortable around him, because ever since i was little, he's been that way with me too, smiling at me weird, staring at me. then if that wasn't weird enough, he used to like try to grab my legs or other parts of my body. he only stopped that a few months ago. but the staring hasn't stopped.
then last weekend i was over at my grandparents, i was in the bathroom and the door wasn't completely shut. i heard him coming up the stairs so i watched through the crack in the door where the hinges are to make sure he wouldnt try to come in. thats when i saw him looking through the gap in the door :|
then i just remember all the times when i was like younger and i stayed over at my grandparents. and i'd have a bath and my gran would take me downstairs to dry me, and i was right infront of him.. wearing nothing. and then when i was dressed, he'd tell me to sit on his knee.
i have 3 boy cousins, he's not like this with them. it's just me.
he's just always watching me, every move i make. and the ways he looks at me sometimes just knocks me sick.
i can't tell my mum or anything, they'd never believe me.
is this even a form of abuse or something? :|

sorry if this is in the wrong place, torn between this and family/friends, feel free to move.


I had an uncle who was the same way. Always trying to grab me on my legs, and constantly smiling at me in that 'perv' way.

I finally got sick of it and told him to cut it out; in front of the rest of my family. It worked.

Tell him to stop. If he doesn't, tell your family or a trusted friend how he makes you feel, and ask them to tell him to stop.

Hope I helped.

[UnknownError]

He sounds like a pervert. I mean no offence to you or your family but he does. But don't do anything too harsh yet.

P.S. (Totally unrelated) How do I get a pic under the mad smiley thing? Thanks. ;)

[1_21Guns]

He sounds like a pervert. I mean no offence to you or your family but he does. But don't do anything too harsh yet.

P.S. (Totally unrelated) How do I get a pic under the mad smiley thing? Thanks. ;)

about the PS thing, what do you mean? XD

[UnknownError]

Never mind. Someone else told me. ;)

[1_21Guns]

Never mind. Someone else told me. ;)

ook :)

[Monoxide]

i doubt he is.. a lot of old people are like this lol. trust me.

[Cronyne]

If yah wanna do something about it, make sure it's not something that would land him in prison. Even if you'd like to see him behind bars... well, they'll kill him in there for that sorta thing.

[YouKnowWho]

Yeah, his actions are not okay. And neither were your grandma's. Your parents need to know this. Because he won't stop acting like this. It won't stop with you, and it most likely will get worse.

[BeautifulDisaster]

I don't think there is much wrong with his actions, he hasn't done anything wrong, the grabbing your legs, was it playfully? May have just been like he was wrestling with you or having fun.

Maybe he was peeking through to see if the room was empty or not?

I dunno but my Grandad is a bit like this too, and he isn't a perv or a sexual abuser.

[1_21Guns]

thanks everyone.

I don't think there is much wrong with his actions, he hasn't done anything wrong, the grabbing your legs, was it playfully? May have just been like he was wrestling with you or having fun.

Maybe he was peeking through to see if the room was empty or not?

I dunno but my Grandad is a bit like this too, and he isn't a perv or a sexual abuser.

there's nothing playful about the look in his eyes when he does it.
staring at my arse is not playing.
neither is staring at my chest.

that room was blatently not empty, the light was on, and he knew it.

thank you for your responce.

[BeautifulDisaster]

Well, I stand by what I've said, but I suppose my opinion isn't wanted, so au revior.

[Truth]

Unless he physically tries to touch you, I don't see what you can do. Every man, no matter how they deny -unless they are homosexual-, find teenage girls attractive. He's just a pervert. You can't blame him, you just need to ignore it until it turns into actual abuse, looking =/= abuse.

And how long was he staring? I some times walk in on people, everyone does. And if he grabs your legs, ask him not to.

[1_21Guns]

Unless he physically tries to touch you, I don't see what you can do. Every man, no matter how they deny -unless they are homosexual-, find teenage girls attractive. He's just a pervert. You can't blame him, you just need to ignore it until it turns into actual abuse, looking =/= abuse.

And how long was he staring? I some times walk in on people, everyone does. And if he grabs your legs, ask him not to.

he'll stare until i tell him to stop, at which point i get called a paranoid bitch, and told to shut up.

[Truth]

he'll stare until i tell him to stop, at which point i get called a paranoid bitch, and told to shut up. Then go right ahead and tell him he's a freaky pervert. If someone insults you, you've all the right to insult them back. If he tries to hurt you because of it, then tell some one.

Looking at a girl if youre a guy is normal, but usually you'd stop once they notice. You have to be a little weird in the head otherwise.

[1_21Guns]

Then go right ahead and tell him he's a freaky pervert. If someone insults you, you've all the right to insult them back. If he tries to hurt you because of it, then tell some one.

Looking at a girl if youre a guy is normal, but usually you'd stop once they notice. You have to be a little weird in the head otherwise.

i would, but it's not easy in the middle of a reasturant when my family are around. the times i've nearly said that are unreal.

[Truth]

i would, but it's not easy in the middle of a reasturant when my family are around. the times i've nearly said that are unreal. Then whisper it to him. Hell, i've outright physically fought with my grandfather. I've made it obvious to alot of my family how much I hate them, I see nothing wrong with you saying it to him. If he doesn't stop, that is.

[1_21Guns]

Then whisper it to him. Hell, i've outright physically fought with my grandfather. I've made it obvious to alot of my family how much I hate them, I see nothing wrong with you saying it to him. If he doesn't stop, that is.

when we're in a reasturant i sit as far as possible, never next to. so i can't really whisper.

[Truth]

when we're in a reasturant i sit as far as possible, never next to. so i can't really whisper. Well, if at other times. Im pre' sure you aren't always in a restaurant, correct? Just tell him to stop. If you dont like it, he shouldnt do it. Any way you can stop being around him?

[1_21Guns]

Well, if at other times. Im pre' sure you aren't always in a restaurant, correct? Just tell him to stop. If you dont like it, he shouldnt do it. Any way you can stop being around him?

i avoid being around him as much as possible, but sometimes it's unavoidable. if he does it again, i will be telling him to stop.

[HillBillyWilly]

That is DEFINATLEY perverted. I think you should try to talk to your parents about this. or even your grandmom.

[Triceratops]

Putting it bluntly - going by what you've described - this grandad sounds a complete letch in my eyes.

He may just have a smile that looks slightly "bizarre" as some old people just do, but when you mentioned the peeking through the door, that bit hit me as creepy. Most people wouldn't peek through the door when they know someone's in there. You have every right to feel disgusted, if one of my blood relatives husband kept grabbing my legs and stared at my arse and chest I would actually hit the roof. There's a small chance that it's paranoia, and that he just happens to seem extremely weird when he's not realising it, but I do doubt that. Having a perverted family member isn't rare at all. You are not being a paranoid bitch at all, because I think the majority of girls would feel exceedingly uncomfortable in this situation too.

Please, tell someone. It's better to confide in someone you may not feel will believe you than to say nothing at all. To me, this man sounds dodgy. Or, if you don't want to talk to someone straight away, try asking him not to do the stuff he's doing as he's making you feel incredibly awkward; but make sure that at least one other adult is around when you are upfront with him, as he's less likely to hurt you when they're around. Another thing, try your absolute best to avoid being with him on your own - at all costs.

[1_21Guns]

thanks everyone,
I did tell my best friend, at first she believed me, but thought maybe it was in my head a little.
then i told her how he'd said she'd lost weight. he only ever sees her in a baggy school uniform... who notices that, because nobody but him has.
I avoid it at all costs, i've even got my mother lying to my gran for different reasons so I don't have to go to my grandparents for tea on Sundays, this hasn't removed the fact I still have to go on Wednesdays mind.
I know I should probably tell my mum... it's just so difficult. I go to say it, but the words just don't come out...

[BlondeBeauty]

This has happened to me too.
I was so sick of my grandad staring at me that i threated him.
i told him if he was to spy on me whilst im getting washed or touch me i would report him to the police.He stopped after that :D

[Zeh Crazy]

This is similar to my grandpa, also not related by blood. I live with my grandparents and my grandma baby-sits a neighbor boy and he takes a shower with my grandpa and I think that it's a little weird when he's 4. When I look back, when I was a kid, I did, too, and I didn't think nothing of it 'cause I was little. He would also try to grab my legs, too, and make me hold his hand. Sometimes he would grab my butt and pinch. I never thought anything about it in the earlier years, but when I got older (about 12) I knew it was wrong, but I didn't know what to do to stop him. What if I was wrong and I was over-exaggerating?

[Eagle1]

I'd tell one of your parents about how you fell around him along with the Bathroom bit they can probably get through to him better than you but he does sound like a perv.

[CaliKid24]

too me thats perv,

[1_21Guns]

This is similar to my grandpa, also not related by blood. I live with my grandparents and my grandma baby-sits a neighbor boy and he takes a shower with my grandpa and I think that it's a little weird when he's 4. When I look back, when I was a kid, I did, too, and I didn't think nothing of it 'cause I was little. He would also try to grab my legs, too, and make me hold his hand. Sometimes he would grab my butt and pinch. I never thought anything about it in the earlier years, but when I got older (about 12) I knew it was wrong, but I didn't know what to do to stop him. What if I was wrong and I was over-exaggerating?

thats like exactly how i feel.

[YouKnowWho]

You're not over exaggerating. If you feel violated or you feel that something is definitely wrong, you're probably right. Listen to your gut. Tell the kids parents. Tell someone and stop him!

[Filipe]

He's just trying to be a grand-father... Some people are different.. It might be hard for him.. Talk to him... Try and understand him better.

[Geo Man]

That's disgraceful.

If I was there, I would wanna kill him...

Sick pervert.

[Sogeking]

That's disgraceful.

If I was there, I would wanna kill him...

Sick pervert.

Please don't bump old threads.

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