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anime Freak
April 11th, 2010, 07:17 PM
alrigth this is kind of a long one:

This girl i have know since first grade and i started goin out last summer, we were together a couple of weeks, then she broke up with me becuase she was not sure if she wanted a relationship. A week or two later she asked me if we could go out again and i said yes. We ended up goin out for about seven months and the she breaks up with me, for a Junior who lives in the next town over (she is only a freshman and so am i). This absolutly crushes me. it destroys me. She had no signs of regret, no remorse, and did not even apologise. I was halfway home when my dad drove by and asked me what was wrong, the second he asked me i broke out in tears. I hurt, it was terrible, my older brother helped me out though and i am thankful for that.
After i got over the pain i was angry for a couple days but i got over that too eventualy.

Then about a month or two ago, about one to two months after she broke up with me, some one asked me why i broke up with her, i looked at them and explained what happened she said "oh" and walked away. Then when i was doing an event after school, about 5 of her freinds came up to me and said "so you are the Jackass that broke up with her." and when i tried to explain to them, one of them says "we heard all about it, how you beat her, how you stole from her, and how you called her a cunt, a slut, and a whore!"

And this i could not tolerate. I have been raised to treat women with respect, and kindness. So that friday i went to her house and spoke to her. We ended up yelling at eachother. I asked her how she could tell her freinds all those lies and she said that she never said anything like it, and that her freinds told her i DID call her a cunt, slut, and a whore. After we yelled that out we got down to the issue that realy had been bothering me. I asked her how she could leave me like she did, i treated her like a princess. I bought her whatever she asked for, i bought her a silver ring, and a silver necklace, down to gum that she wanted for school. I comferted her when her grandfather died, i was there almost evry day, all of my free time i devoted to her. When her mom had a hard time feeding the family i took her over to my house and gave her food, when we had boots and jackets that didnt fit at my house, i gave them to her and her brothers. i even told no one that her mom sold her perscription drugs to people. and she told me that she thought that she loved that junior but it turns out she didnt. after that i left, if i got any more furious i might have broken my principals and hit her.

All her freinds stopped insulting me after that, and then last friday, one of her freinds comes up to me and says "she says she is sorry and wants to be your freind." I told her in a flat nuetral voice that i would think about it. and this is were i have the problem. becuase i do not know what to do, my mom says its up to me, my dad says that i should stay away from her, and my best freind is not sure. but he did help me think of this list of why she aplologised to me, and we agreed on it that they are most likely true:
A)she feels guilty
B) she does want to be my freind cause we have been freinds since first grade
C) she is clingy and needs someone to pay attention to her and her boyfreind broke up with her so she wants me.

but i dont know what to do!! should i leave the whole thing alone, or forgive her, or be her freind, or if she asks go out with her again? i just have no clue and i need help, please respond

Close102
April 11th, 2010, 08:29 PM
2 days ago my friends gf broke up with him for the guy she had been going out with before him. the next day she wanted to get back together with him, so the list there is pretty similar. my sugestion would be to talk to her and see if she is being sincire (spelt wrong sorry) about her friendship request. but dont give in right away, you have a certain amount of power right now. if you give in without getting some sort of promise back then there isnothing holding her back from hurting you again. goodluck

anime Freak
April 14th, 2010, 06:18 PM
bump cause i need help!

misery_business
April 14th, 2010, 06:57 PM
thats a very tricky situation.

I think you should talk to her and ask her honestly why she's sorry and see if she's really sorry, listen to all she has to say but make up your mind after you have though about it...was what she put you through enough to break up your friend ship forever ? or can you forgive her ? It's all about how you feel about the whole thing.
sorry if I didn't help much :/ but it looked like you could have used a tiny bit of advice:)
good luck x