What do I do now?

[timelinetracings]

Ok, so I'm going to give some background before I start ranting. Sorry for the word-vomit.

I had a best friend, let's call her Jenna for privacy sake. We were best-friends, then boyfriend/girlfriend, then we stopped talking all together, and then we were best friends again, and now we stopped being friends.

Jenna is a liar, she is toxic, manipulative, and has low self-esteem so she would shut me down to make herself feel better.

Jenna would take me on an emotional roller coaster and shut me down all the time. Also, whenever she was upset, I'd try to help her, but she'd just shut me down and get mad at me!

So basically, I was done with it all. And I PEACEFULLY stopped being friends with her, after a minor fight. Basically this is what I did:

1. I began ignoring her.
2. I moved out of her locker.
3. And I cut her off.

Immediately after we stopped being friends she began tweeting horrible things about me, here are a few of them:

"I'm not the kind of person that needs other people, you can suck it."
"You can be angry all you want. The only person who is going to be hurt is you."

There were more.

Anyways, there was a huge risk of our "breakup", over the past few weeks I've started hanging out with her friends, and now they've become my friends as well.

Since we stopped being friends, she's started feeding them lies and they're all turning on me.

I don't want to be the aggressor and start even more crap, what do I do?

I left out a few details because I don't have to energy to type out all the details, but if you need any additional information please ask.

I really need help, please don't give me simple advice.

[pixie1234]

right i think the main thing you need to do is talk to 'Jenna' and ask her why she always brings you down. if she actually says ''cos it makes me feel better' then shes not worth any of your time, she may not realise she was doing it. tbh from what you have said she sounds a right bitch. but i dont know her and for all i know she could be really nice. also ask her why she is spouting all this rubbish about you. if these people really want to be friends with you they would ask you if it was true instead of jumping at the first post.

good luck :) xx

[Maverick]

Welcome to Virtual Teen.

This may seem simple but I think its best to walk away from her and her friends as well. You don't need to be hanging around with somebody like that. Its a waste of time to try to figure out what her deal is and to win her friends back over.

Just move on with your life, block her on twitter, and find better people to hang out with.

[staying_alive]

Yeah I'm going to agree with the above posters. Here's the thing though: she's not going to admit that she's doing it to make you feel like shit. She's going to deny doing it. I've had a friend like this, and she changed (thank god). Here's my advice.

With online stuff (aka Tweeting), it only works for so long. People get PISSED when some bitch keeps tweeting about her old lover and how annoying he is and blah blah blah. Trust me, it'll get old and she'll give up. If it doesn't stop, simply block her or defriend her or whatever you do on twitter. In the meantime, just ignore it and concentrate on the friends turning on you.

Speaking of the friends, here's what you do. You need to make them feel sorry for you. Be a "neutral" party. Don't be an aggressor, because girls (i'm assuming her friends are girls) will ALWAYS take the pity side if you're a guy. If you attack they'll band together with girl-power and hate on you even more (sounds stupid...it's true). Simply explain to them how horrible she was to you and how you're just looking for some nicer friends. If they don't see your neutrality and victimization, they're not worth the time and you should ditch them altogether.

[timelinetracings]

Thank you everyone for your advice, I've decided on a plan of action.

I'm going to continue to ignore 'Jenna'
I'm going to go to my friends and basically tell them that just because Jenna and I are no longer friends, doesn't mean it has to affect our relationship, and if they'd like to know why I stopped being friends with her, that I'll gladly tell them.

Thoughts?
The friends are 5 guys and 3 girls.

[staying_alive]

Thank you everyone for your advice, I've decided on a plan of action.

I'm going to continue to ignore 'Jenna'
I'm going to go to my friends and basically tell them that just because Jenna and I are no longer friends, doesn't mean it has to affect our relationship, and if they'd like to know why I stopped being friends with her, that I'll gladly tell them.

Thoughts?
The friends are 5 guys and 3 girls.

Good plan of action. Make sure you don't simply ask them if they want to know about it, but that you ask them to get both sides of the story. Appearing neutral will get you points.

I've never seen guys side more with the girl, unless you actually were an asshole (doesn't sound like it). Just hang out with the guys and I think they'll understand that she's at fault. While the girls need to have sympathy, guys are generally "whatever" about these situations. They don't usually like the drama.

[timelinetracings]

staying_alive,
thank you for your continuous advice, sadly, I haven't been able to hang out with them this week, but hopefully soon. I'm worried that I'll lose a hold of them, but I guess if they don't care, I shouldn't either. She's continually manipulating them, or suffocating them with attention to I guess, rub it in my face. Hopefully they will become annoyed of her.

Thanks again :]

[timelinetracings]

I really want to punch her in the face, it disgusts me that no one else realizes what she is doing, but at the same time, I don't want to go around talking shit. Either way, she's bothering me a lot.