The girl.

[Patchy]

Hey y'all


For a while I've liked this girl. My best girl friend (as in friend not gf lol) says I should go for it and invited her to a party on Sunday so I can get to know her properly.

The thing is, she's not what you say popular. In fact a bit of a geek. Now that doesn't bother me since I know my friends will accept her for what she is and won't bitch about her or be nasty to her, thats my close friends which I see all the time after school.

However in school, the preppy kids tease her. They used to tease me but they've given up since I don't react to it at all any more, as in I would used to punch them or chase them etc. now I dont give a crap. However I'm worried that if I go out with this girl they'll start on me again and then make things worse making a relationship harder to start off.

My close friends say I should not give a crap what they think however, I do since I don't want to be slagged off and make this girl feel shes the reason they pick on me.

Its confusing, I really want to be with her yet I'm worried she will get picked on even more and feel even worse, I would stand up for her but I just don't want to ruin my life or hers. Even though she's very keen and looking forward to our first date/get together.


I'm rambling on a bit now, so should I follow what my close mates say and not worry or take into account I could commit school social suicide by doing this?

Thanks for reading x

[Obscene Eyedeas]

i believe if you like her enough Hun you should go for it as school will only last a few more years and the relationship might last longer. equally things could turn out the exact opposite. but imo i think you should follow your friends advice either way best of luck Hun

[Scarface]

I think If you like this girl don't worry about what anyone else has to say. No ones opinion of you or her should matter If you two like each other. Even though it might damage your reputation at school and might get picked on a little bit so what just continue your technique of ignoring them and they will stop. Plus you will have a girlfriend out of this whole thing which Is quite win no matter If she is popular or not If you have feelings for this girl then chase after her man. Just don't worry everything will be Okay.

[Patchy]

Thing is, last GF I had wasn't a problem, mainly because she was down to earth and didn't do anything that people could slag her off for. This girl did in the past, but now shes just waiting for the slagging to end.


Thing I'm worried about is I end up going out with her, then realise this aint working and we choose to end it, is 2-4 weeks worth of dating worth another year of slagging?

I'm on the fence at the moment.

[Arantor]

Well, I guess it's entirely up to you now.

I sure can't think of anything else.

But my advice to you: Some preppy kids running their mouths means absolutely nothing, a relationship means something.

Follow your heart.

[Patchy]

Well, I guess it's entirely up to you now.

I sure can't think of anything else.

But my advice to you: Some preppy kids running their mouths means absolutely nothing, a relationship means something.

Follow your heart.

Thanks for your advice, I think I might just be thinking about it too much

[relapse]

if you feel comfortable go for it, if she sez no OH WELL, life goes on

[Obscene Eyedeas]

Hun really if there is this much indecision in your mind are you sure you really like her that much

[pixie1234]

so long as you like her BLOW what everyone else thinks! to hell with them, what do they know about you or her?? xx

[Patchy]

Hun really if there is this much indecision in your mind are you sure you really like her that much

I've thought that as well, the feelings I have for her aren't strong, but saying that I only ever see her in school, this party will be the first time I've gone out with her properly out of school

so long as you like her BLOW what everyone else thinks! to hell with them, what do they know about you or her?? xx

Mainly she was just a bit of a geek, asked one of the popular preppy kids out and got knocked back and gave them a reason to pick on her, made all sorts of bull shit up about her.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

Well i think that all you need to do is go to that party and see how you feel and then you will be able to tell Hun on whether you like her enough or not until then you will just ask yourself the same questions and get the same answers.
i wish you the best of luck you've always struck me as a nice funny guy

[Patchy]

Well i think that all you need to do is go to that party and see how you feel and then you will be able to tell Hun on whether you like her enough or not until then you will just ask yourself the same questions and get the same answers.
i wish you the best of luck you've always struck me as a nice funny guy

Thankies so much :hug:

[Arantor]

Best of luck to you, Patchy.

[Fruit_Tart.]

good luck!!! and go get her... ^.^ :D

[Raptor22]

Good luck Patch.

As for those other assholes, they can go fuck themselves. :)

[Aves]

Good luck Patrick. Who cares what the preppy kids think anyways. Really, if you they don't treat you with respect, then you don't have to treat them with respect. If you like someone enough, it shouldn't matter how the relationship is viewed by others. :)