dropping out

[ArtistInNeed]

ok so im so done with school and i just feel like its not the place for me. im planning on telling my mom either today or sometime over sat or sunday. im really scared. if anyone has any advice or something that would be great

[Aspiringanonymous]

Are you sure about this? Career opportunities for high-school dropouts are significantly limited. There is no need to go on further if schooling just isn't for you, but it is always best to complete one's compulsory eduction.

What is it about school that you dislike so much? And also - have you considered completing high school online? I have spoken to people on the verge of dropping out who later found this is as a tolerable alternative to regular day school.

[Scarface]

Well I personally dropped out of school In the 10th grade and recently got my GED. I have some regrets though because high school Is a very crucial time to discover who you are and It has some of the best ways to socialize and meet new friends. It also lets you continue learning and sometimes it can be interesting, but I know a lot of people think It's boring. I had decent grades a lot of friends It was a lot of fun It was my family problems that made me drop out. One thing i will say though Is make sure you make a list of pro's and con's list of the reasons you want to stay In school and the reasons that you want to leave. It's a big decision just make sure you are solid on It and If you do drop out go get that GED because procrastination Is not good with education. I wish the best of luck to you and I hope this helps.

[pontiacdriver]

ok so im so done with school and i just feel like its not the place for me. im planning on telling my mom either today or sometime over sat or sunday. im really scared. if anyone has any advice or something that would be great

My bias is against dropping out, but I will address your question before presenting my case.

If you do drop out, then you sure as heck better have a plan with what you are going to do with your life during the time you are not in school. For example, will you be working full time, and will the place of employment even allow you to work full time hours if you are under 18? Also, since you are dropping out of school will you be expected to help out with the bills around the house. I doubt your parents will let you continue to stay as a free rider, and you might have to take on a bill or two especially if you are working, and you might be responsible for your own food. Also, your parents might ask you to contribute towards your expenses in some way through a quasi rent, and you should be prepared for that. Basically, what I am saying here is that when you tell your Mum you are dropping out, then you also need to tell her what your alternative is and what you plan to do with your life.


As mentioned above, my bias is against dropping out for the simple fact that it creates so many complications. For those of us who have been down that road I can tell you that dropping out is not as good as it seems, and nearly all drop outs end up going back to school at some point or another. Especially in this day in age in post industrial America there really is not a whole lot of opportunities out there for high school drop outs unlike in the past where you could have at least shown up at a factory and gotten some job. Most places out there will not hire folks without a high school education, and chances are you will be limited to fast food and places like it when it comes to work.

You need to sit down and ask yourself why leaving school is beneficial to you in your mind. Clearly, if there are issues in your life which are preventing you from achieving academic success or there are teachers or school policies which are unfair towards you, then you need to talk with your parents. If there are larger issues such as pregnancy or bullying, then, one again, you have to talk to someone about your issues such as your parents. Before you finally drop out I would at least go to your school's guidance department and see what they say about your situation. Who knows, your school might be able to make adjustments for you?

Do what is best for you in your life, but just don't shoot yourself in the foot and leave yourself without an education.

[ArtistInNeed]

im in college btw. i already finished high school. its just not for me

[pontiacdriver]

im in college btw. i already finished high school. its just not for me

Oh, I get you, and dropping out of college is totally different. A lot of my advice above still stands in terms of having a plan on what to do with your time when you are not in school, but I totally sympathize with your desire to leave college.

My recommendation is that if you are currently in a four year school, then you might to take a step back and enroll in a community college and get your general education credits out of the way. You just might find an area which interests you which would make college relevant.

If you truly dislike college and feel that enough is enough, then find a decent job where you can get on-the-job training and be able to move up that way. Just have some sort of back up plan because if you drop out of college and do not have anything else planned, then your Mum is going to go off the deep end.

As for telling your Mum about your feelings, just tell her that you do not want to go into debt for something about which you do not like and cannot complete. There is no question that your Mum is going to be upset (especially if she went to college). Try to see if you both can meet each other half way and talk about why college did not work for you.

If this means anything, sometimes transferring schools can make all the difference if your current school really sucks. However, if you truly hate college, then there is no sense in staying in it as college is super expensive. Just do the best for the rest of your semester (assuming you are still enrolled) and move on from there.

My recommedation is that before you totally write off school to ask yourself what about school did not work for you. What I mean is that if your specific school was bad or you felt overwhelmed, then you might need to take a couple of steps back. Especially if you are a freshman at school I know that things can be super hard as high schools many times do not prepare kids well for the major change to college. It can be hard when one did really well in high school only to suddenly do badly in college. If possible, then see if you can take some credits at a local community college to get up to speed with college life as that does make a difference. Also, if your major does not match up with your interests, then ascertain if there is a school or a programme within your university which might be better suited to your needs. Counseling and psychological services on campus as well as the career center are both your friends in this area. Also, talking to your Dean is another good way to get perspective on things.

With all of this being said, if you truly hate college, then you have to put your foot down as it is your life. Just make sure you have alternatives before writing off school.

[magikarpy]

You really should get some form of higher education in todays economy. You could try switching degrees, colleges, or going to a school such as a culinary arts or midwifery school.

[Nickk XD]

Many many many current jobs now are requiring a 2 year degree for a job that never used to require one. This is because the market is so tough and they are over flooded with applicants...

Right now it's an employers market...not an employee market...so whatever they ask for is what they'll get.