Same fight different situations.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

This is mostly just a rant because there is not a whole lot I can do.

I love my boyfriend Owen.
We have been together a year now, and we have been through a lot together.

Basically people tell us we are perfect for eachother, which I agree with, except for that nothing is perfect, but we're pretty close.

We don't have many issues, no big fights or anything, but
The small amount of issues we do have
how do I put this
all come from him being too much of a man (oblivious) and me being too much of a woman (emotional)

He's not good with being straight forward about our plans.
When ever he's about to ditch me, I can see it coming hours ahead.
Always.

I always read to too much into it
but when it comes down to it, he doesn't mean anything by it
he's just really bad with communication.

EX.
Last night we had plans.
He was suppose to come over after work, and hang out because we haven't since sunday morning, and I wasn't feeling good and wanted him to come cuddle me and make me feel better.

He did tell me he would be here late because he had some of his friends coming over to help pour some concreat. I was fine with that.
But I knew he was going to ditch me in the back of my mind.

Sure enough he calls at 8 and says "i've got bad news"
I'm like "nooooo"
Because I knew it.
him: Yea i've already had three beers I should drive down there.

I just told him he sucked, he knew i was mad and we hung up.
I sent him a text saying "You know its not like I dont have means of transportation"
Which yea I should have been more straight forward with (I was getting at he could of invited me)

But no, he didn't invite me because he wanted to hang out with his friends, which he gets to do when ever he wants. I give him as much space as he's always wanted, because I know he's just that type of guy. But he is so terrible at communicating with me, he always just hurts my feelings. I feel like he used the beer as an excuse when that just gets him into more trouble because its not like someone forced it down his throat.

We've talked about all this before. How I can tell when he's about to ditch me and he shouldn't make plans when he knows he won't be able to follow through.

It just seems like this is the one same issue we have just manifesting its self in different ways.

Anyways, he sent me a text this morning saying "Hey babe, I'm sorry about last night i shouldn't have made plans with you knowing I had all those guys coming over and in retrospect I handeled the situation quite poorly. So i apoligize and hope you'll forgive me. I love you."

I mean, yea he knows where he skrewed up, but it's going to happen again.
Everytime we get in these fights its over phone and texts, then the next day he comes over and i'm tired of fighting and let it go.

It just seems like whenever we have plans, them following through or not is up to him. but i can't say that to him because that is just blatently blamming him.

I don't know what to say to him.

[Contra]

A relationship is a commitment that must be taken serious by both parties, and you two should work together to avoid other situations like this. If one of the members of the relationship isn't feeling good about something related to it, they must talk about it and try to come up with a solution to that problem. I'm pretty sure you already knew this, but it was just an introduction to a possible solution. :)

I know you already talked to him, but he didn't seem to understand. So I say you should talk to him again and tell him that you don't feel good about this situation.
Almost all men are oblivious towards women's feelings, because they can't understand them well, so expose them in full, so he can know how you feel.
Good luck. :)

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talk to him, sit down and say like " just hear me out" and then tell him how you feel because it sounds like you love eachother, but you see some parts of him you dont like, it may not change anything; but try talking to him