Well, it's not me...

[HillBillyWilly]

OK, in health we were talking about the kinds of families there were and how different kinds affect different parts of the brain emotionally.

well, my girlfriend who i sit next to told me that she thought she was adopted because she has red hair and no one else in her family looks like her, plus, apparently there are no pictures of her as a baby so she really thinks this.

Lately i've noticed that she seems really bummed out about this, and i wanna know how i can help with this because she seems to really take that seriously and i think that she is really sad about the prospect of her possibly being adopted.

Any suggestions?

[staying_alive]

Well, it's a rough situation because obviously it's one of those things she takes very seriously. Everyone gets this way about certain things, so it's important to say the right things.

First, inform her that red hair is recessive as far as genes go - neither of her parents need to have red hair for her to have it.

Secondly, tell her to simply ask. I doubt she's adopted, but asking her parents will giver her a solid answer.

Lastly, if she is adopted, plan your words CAREFULLY. Inform her that many people are adopted, and that it's always for their benefit. Tell her that she's much safer and better off with her new parents and that's the only reason any parent would give up their children.

Verdict: I doubt she's adopted. Simply seeing how someone looks in relation to their parents is an unreliable source of speculation. If there are obvious signs, like her being African American and both her parents are white, it would be fairly obvious, but if not then I think she's just being overly concerned about nothing.

[HillBillyWilly]

ok thanks