My Friend Needs Help

[joshm]

Ok, so after getting myself into a HUGE mess with my friend, she told me she's cutting herself. I knew she was going to refuse me suggesting that she needs to get help. I'm now starting to wonder what do I do now? I'm thinking if I try and help her she's going to hate me even more. But if she doesn't get help she can be really doing damage to her body. What do I do now?

[HillBillyWilly]

Yeah i know someone who wants to commit suicide, and im trying to help him through that.


i think yo should see if she wants to talk about it. If she does, try to find out why shes cutting herself and try to fix that. If you can kill the problem at it's roots, it all goes away

[Lemonlover934]

i doubt she would hate you for trying to help. just be there for her, if she wants to talk, listen, if she doesn't want to talk just be there for her.
Your support would probably mean alot to her. x

[Jove]

Here's an idea, rather than oh I don't know get her some help, make a thread about it.

[BuryYourFlame]

Don't force your help on her. If she doesn't want it, then you're just going to annoy her. Just try and be there for her if she needs to talk and try talking to her, see how she's doing etc. But again, don't be forceful in your help.

[Amyxoxo]

As has been said.
If you try to help her too much she will just think that you are forcing something upon her that only she can decide if she continues with it.
Maybe give her sites or something with information on so if she decides to stop she doesn't feel alone.
I know that you want to help and your scared but this is something that she needs to sort all on her own.

Also I feel for you.
Just because I had an argument with someone I wouldn't tell them as that would make them think that it is their thought.
btw it isn't your fault!

[Fiction]

My best friend attmepted suicide. I told someone- i had to. In the end she was glad i did it. But i know how she feels now. And i'm not sure i'd be so glad :/

[georgiamay]

maybe if she won't listen to your suggestions about getting help, you should be there for her through it all anyway. just be a shoulder to cry on for her, and let her know that you're always there for her to talk to. talking does help, so if she knows that she can talk to you without being judged, then she probably will, and that way you'll be helping her.

Try not to push her to get help, and don't force your opinion onto her. maybe when she knows that she can talk to you, she'll listen to your suggestions about getting help, so just talk to her about what she's going through right now, and then maybe she'll realise that you do care about her, and will know that you're only making these suggestions because it will help her. then maybe she'll take your advice.

i hope i helped :)

[Mike321]

She won't hate you for wanting to help, but like everyone esle has said dont force your help on her.
Just let her know that you will be there for her and over time she may open up to you

[pixie1234]

if you do tell someone she will be pretty annoyed at you for a while but will forgive you in time (beleive i have been there done that got the tee shirt) however if you dont want to talk to someone about it/tell someone then give her this e-mail adress. say she doesnt have to use it but its there if she wants it.

[email protected]

dont force too much help on her but just tell her the e-mail adress is there if she wants it.

good luck xx