dad

[Kaya]

ok....so my dad came home nd i was still on the computer. he asked me if i cleaned anything.i said "no." well he told me 2 get off the computer so i told him that ill clean later. he went around taking pictures of the house nd he told me if anything is left untouched im not allowed on the computer for the rest of the week....god. i hate him so much. i dont understand why he doesnt just tell me he hates me and then i wouldnt feel so upset when he yells at me....im tired of his shit. i cant wait until i move out nd get away from him.

sorry 4 the rant...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X60KwLs5Qpc

[Hollywood]

Well, I mean, I want to side with you, but I don't know if I can.

You're Dad told you to do something, as his child, you are obligated to do it. If he asks you to clean up, you have to. I hate having to clean up for my Mom, but I have to, because I love her. You have to do what your father says, he dosen't hate you, he just wants you to grow up properly. You will thank him later, trust me.

[Kaya]

1)i dont even live upstairs.....so why should i be forced to clean his messes?
2)hes not even my real dad.
3)he doesnt even ask me....he just yells at me until i do.
4)he doesnt ever say thank you...
5)he never even talks 2 me, so y should i b his lil servant girl?

[Hollywood]

1)i dont even live upstairs.....so why should i be forced to clean his messes?
2)hes not even my real dad.
3)he doesnt even ask me....he just yells at me until i do.
4)he doesnt ever say thank you...
5)he never even talks 2 me, so y should i b his lil servant girl?

Well, you should have mentioned some of this in your original post.

1) Everyone has chores they have to do for their parents, just a way to help out, and keep the house looking good. Even if you don't make it, it's good to help out.

2) I wasn't raised by my real Dad eiether, he was my step-dad, but by god, I listened to him. He was strict, always made me clean up, and I hated it. He always told me I would thank him later, and now I do, all the time.

3) Sometimes, you just need to clean up something you see in the corner of your eye. Walking by a mess isn't very responsable, and, like I said, it's good to help out.

4) Parents don't really have to say thank you. You are assigned chores, and you are expected to do them, usually for allowance (although I don't get any). If you do everyhting you are told to, your parents will appreciate it and reward you, and you will have a better relationship

5) Same as above

Please take my advice, it will help you in the long run.

[Kaya]

well...he doesnt even talk to me. so why should i have 2 clean his messes?

[Hollywood]

well...he doesnt even talk to me. so why should i have 2 clean his messes?

I can understand that you two have a bad relationship. Maybe you should talk to your mom about this, she can help you more than I can.

[Kaya]

my mom isnt home. if you read my other post..........you can find out why. besides all my mom ever tells me is "just ignore him" i cant fucking ignore him when hes screaming at me.

[Hollywood]

my mom isnt home. if you read my other post..........you can find out why. besides all my mom ever tells me is "just ignore him" i cant fucking ignore him when hes screaming at me.

I don't know what to tell you. The more I think about it, the more I agree with you. He dosen't have the right to tell you to clean his messes, and as for your mom, she should be supporting you, not him. Do you have any grandparents or aunts and uncles you can talk to about this?

[Kaya]

nope

[INFERNO]

1)i dont even live upstairs.....so why should i be forced to clean his messes?
2)hes not even my real dad.
3)he doesnt even ask me....he just yells at me until i do.
4)he doesnt ever say thank you...
5)he never even talks 2 me, so y should i b his lil servant girl?

Whether he is your biological father or not is irrelevant, he provides you with food, shelter, other needs of life, education, and luxuries such as computer usage, and probably other items. He shouldn't have to ask you to please do something, although it is more polite, if he asks and you don't do it despite being given sufficient time, it's reasonable for him to be annoyed. I sympathize that you two don't have a great relationship but the fact remains, if he asks or tells you to do something, then do it. As for why should you clean his messes, well, why should he provide you with anything? He provides you with all that stuff out of his own work, energy and pocket, couldn't you clean up a mess, even if it is his?

I don't know the history between you two but if you want the relationship to work, then you've got to contribute to it as does he. It's a two-way road though, if he's angry at you and you're angry at him, regardless of the reasons why you two are angry at each other, it's not going to be a strongly positive relationship. Have you tried doing such things without him asking, so when he goes to ask or shout, it's done already and you try to make it work?

Sorry, although I do sympathize with a poor relationship, I find myself having to side with your father despite his rudeness in not asking kindly or acknowledging you have done something he has asked.

[Jess]

does he ever do it himself? Does he have you do all the work?? I mean, if he's busy and doesn't have time to do the cleaning, maybe you should do it for him, but if he isn't then I understand how you feel

[Kaya]

Well, I dont live upstairs w/ him....I live with my grandparents in the basement. And usually I do everything......but my mom came home and she talked to him about making me and my sister do everything......................but then my mom started bossing me around, too. Its whatever though, I guess. I can deal.

[wolfbird_94]

I'm sorry, I can't side with you. I've been and Is Being Raised to Do wat my parents say. Parents tell you to do stuff to teach us. We don't want to Be like my Cussins who sit at their computer, Only leave it for Washroom and Food! when you get married and have kids You can raise them How you and your Husband wants. Its nothing to be mad at them for, They are just doing their Role as a parents and Doing their Job.

I'm sorry. its how Life is!
Thanks!

I forgot to say, your Parents Love you! even Step fathers (or wat ever he is)

[magikarpy]

He's a guy. He's not going to have a heartfelt discussion with you on why he would appreciate you so much if you cleaned up. He just expects it done.