when do i come out?

[CARL92]

i'm gay but not out yet. i'm in my last year of school and i'm under loads of pressure because of exams. should i wait til after the exams to come out to people? i suppose i want to be out by the time i start college...

[Harley Quinn]

i'm gay but not out yet. i'm in my last year of school and i'm under loads of pressure because of exams. should i wait til after the exams to come out to people? i suppose i want to be out by the time i start college...

Come out when you feel its right and when you're comfortable coming out. You don't have to be forced, you have your own mind. If you want to come out after exams, then do so, but make sure you are ready to. Get the exams outta the way, concentrate on them, and then see how you feel about coming out. Take your time, no need to rush.

[Johnny_John]

Whenever you're ready. It may be very scary, but you can find out how people truly can be cruel, but really nice at the same time.

People may like it, people may not but what people should never affect you. You're a human being, be happy with who you are. =)

[Lifeguard18]

Come out when you feel its right and when you're comfortable coming out. You don't have to be forced, you have your own mind. If you want to come out after exams, then do so, but make sure you are ready to. Get the exams outta the way, concentrate on them, and then see how you feel about coming out. Take your time, no need to rush.

she basically summed it up for you.

[curiousboy014]

Don't come out until your ready. Just out of curiosity, why do you want to come out before you go to college?

[CARL92]

Don't come out until your ready. Just out of curiosity, why do you want to come out before you go to college?

i suppose i want to be able to go out with guys freely and not have to hide anything or lie to anyone

[curiousboy014]

Well you don't have to come out to your high school, you could always come out when your at college. when my brothers class graduated I would at leaset five guys ended up being gay and dating people in college. In my hometown it is looked down upon. So they waited and then just came out to their friends in college and found guys.

[josh93]

well you mabey should wait to come out after you get your exams done then come out that way you can put more of your effort into your exams and not have to worry at the same time about people treating you unfairly so when you are done with your exams you can focuse on comeing out. But its up to you.

[Johnny_John]

If you do not want to deal with everyone then i suggest you wait till college.
But if you want to get it off, do it soon
It's up to you to decide
Just remember, you've got your family and you have us on here for support and advice.

[Torque]

Wait till collage, when your not living with your parents.

[Nickk XD]

Coming out is a matter of when you're ready.

Do you have any REASONING behind it? I mean if you're not into having a boyfriend and any serious relationship at the moment, there may be NO LOGICAL NEED to come out.

If you want to move on and hope everything is easier when you're out...then come out...

I would assume coming out in college may be less humiliating than in High School, depending on your area. It could potentially be stressful, humiliating, and tormenting...but usually everything goes away shortly after (I've seen...so...)

Make the executive decision...but be sure to let us know!

[disassociation2016]

It would be a very interesting good bye present for your fellow class mates. "Okay have a good life. Oh, and I like guys." If nothing else you'd be the talk of the town for a day or so.

[Mattasaur94]

The way I see it...
There's no incredible need to "come out". There's not reason to go around telling everyone who your attracted to.
I also don't agree with labelling people as Gay, Bi, straight, etc.
It's kind of like your favourite... flavoured pizza. (: There isn't any need for you to run around (mataphorically) and tell everyone what flavoured pizza you like, but if someone asks you tell them the truth.

i suppose i want to be able to go out with guys freely and not have to hide anything or lie to anyone
If your worried about how people will react, then don't. People will accept you eventually, your friends can't hate you too badly for it, and people who reacting idiotically obviously don't like you that much.
People will learn to accept things, they usually react negatively to things unnexpected or things that they aren't used to or comfortable with.
People feel better after comming out, but it's a state of mind, just be confident in yourself and do what you want, it's your life, if you like someone, like them, if someone asks you if your gay then tell them. Don't make a big deal out of it.

Everyone else said pretty much it, come out, if your looking for that sort of thing, when your ready to, when you feel right, go for it.