am i Responsible?

[Obscene Eyedeas]

Ok well my friend his girlfriend died around 2 years ago and he hasn't had another since. since around a year and a half ago he's liked me. he always avoided touching me or being alone with me afraid of getting too close. but then a load of Shit happened my friends betrayed me and my friend died and all this left me feeling suicidal and he showed up to take care of me alone. first time we have ever been alone. then he told me he loved me and i told him i could never love him that i love someone else and am planning a life with them. so he tried to commit suicide and it was pure luck he was found on time, and i mean pure luck. he rang me the next day and asked me to be with him. now i know if i don't get with him he will kill himself but i had to say no. didn't i? and now that Ive said no. if he kills himself it's all my fault. i said no last night

god this is killing me, i can't get it out of my head. it's hurting so horribly to know it's my fault

[Sapphire]

It is not your fault.
You cannot be responsible for his actions.
I am so sorry that you have been put in this situation but it is so important that you recognise he is the only one can can control and be responsible for his actions.
You needed to be honest with him. Friendships are built on trust and honesty.
But you being honest with him did not force him to try to end his life. Aside from you being there coercing him to do it, there is no way that you could have forced him to try to commit suicide.

Maybe going to see him in hospital would be a good step to reassure him that you do still care. Though if I were you, I wouldn't stay for hours on end in case he misinterprets that.

I hope you are holding up ok and being gentle with yourself!

[Kaya]

Its not your fault.

[Hyper]

Sorry but no, not your fault, if your friend can't handle the fact that to you he is a friend and nothing more - too bad - killing himself over it is just stupid and trying to force you to be with him by threatening to do so is just so low in my eyes.

But you are probably the only person who can help your friend, unless there is someone else who he would listen to, if he refuses to listen again not your fault.. In the end its wholly up to us what we listen to and if we choose to acknowledge it.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

He is worthless in my eyes after today. i can't believe i ever blamed myself. i can't believe he has done what he Did.