Is my mom to easygoing?

[Sordid Saint]

Ok, so yesterday, my friends were over and I was looking for a magazine (guitar magazine) to show to my friends (Dimebag Darrel was in it), and so my friend found it and goes "I found the magazine" and my mom was in my room cleaning it, and jokingly to see what she would do I said "What? My Playboy magazine?" and then I said that I was joking and she said "I don't care. Why would I care if you had one of them?"

Also, when me, my sister, her boyfriend, and my mom were at dinner last week my sister said to my mom, "Mom, your son's a little pothead" My sister knew that I have smoked a lot before, and jokingly again I said "Yupp" to my mom. And she didn't care. I still haven't told her I was joking.

I remember her being easy on my sister's friends, like not caring if they went for a walk to smoke (tobacco), or not caring about them talking about weed or sex lol

It's not like she's a bad mom, if we got in trouble, she would be ripshit, but if we've already done it, or if we're not at risk, it seems like she doesn't really care. I think she would care about marijuana though. Just as long as I don't carry it with me I don't think she would care.

If I made her out to look like she wouldn't care about me being a druggy, you have the complete wrong idea... She just knows that everyone is going to do those things once in their lifetime. If someone knows what I mean and can explain it better, please do.


Also, it's not like she would let me smoke pot every day or infront of her, but if she found out that I did once in a while with my friends at their house or something or while she was out from my house I don't think it would really matter.

Again, if someone knows what I mean and can explain it better, please do.

[Hollywood]

Well, I don't really know what to say, to be honest. I mean, is this a problem?

It sounds like she may be a little easygoing. But maybe she just thinks you are joking, but you said she knows about you smoking? She might just, not care, but I don't think that's the right way to put it, but like I said, I have no idea what to tell you.

Can you describe the issue more specifically? I want to help, if I can.

[Inconvenience]

how old 're u?

maybe she just trusts u knowing that u ain't gonna do something wrong, at least not cross the line. like u said she know's someday u anyways gonna smoke pot once in a blue moon but she trusts enough thinking that it won't happen frequently..

well i think yess she's easy going, but a bit overmuch. she must at least be tellin not to do that. this is what worries u more, u think maby she doesn't care.. but she does.. not everyone put down feelings into words.. u can tell her u know, be open to her,she'll appreciate it and u'll be feeling better :)

[staying_alive]

I'm with winnebago, I don't understand what the problem is. It almost sounds like you're trying to create a problem out of nothing?

Your mom sounds cool, why worry about it. It sounds like she knows what she's doing, she knows what teenagers do and she's not trying to fight it.

[INFERNO]

It could be either that your mother knows that you're joking so she doesn't get worked up about it because of that. For example, my friends and I, if at my house or one of their houses say something like "Oh, you found my Playboy Magazine" as you did, the parents wouldn't mind and the most they'd do is simply ask if we're joking. She seems to know that dumb stuff happens and so she probably sees no reason to get worked up over very minor things or things that are likely a joke.

That being said, I'm not sure why you seem to believe there's a problem, unless you actually want her to be stricter but it seems you didn't post this thread for that reason in mind. Obviously she is a bit easy-going and has common sense and a sense of humour yet it seems you're trying to stir up some problem.

[Sordid Saint]

No I don't think it's a problem, but all of my friends moms are strict. It must just be where I live. My mom grew up in a bad place and my friends parents grew up in the suburbs so that must be why. I just wanted to see if other people thought that this would be a problem or what their parents would be like.


I mean, she's not THAT easy-going... When my sister told her that I've smoked she wasn't giggling saying "oh that's ok". She had a serious face on like she was going to yell at me, but then she probably thought that all teenagers will do it at some point, so she just kept to herself. The point got by through body language though.

[HellHound]

Man u are blessed.You really dont want a tough parent trust me

[Music.]

i have an easy going parent and a strict parent. it causes a lot of fighting

[Hollywood]

Man u are blessed.You really dont want a tough parent trust me

Not necissarily. Tough parents defiantly wind up raising better children. My step-father was hard on me as a child, and I turned out way better than I would have if I got the easy treatment.

Having a tough parent may hurt parts of your adolesence, but it will help you later.