Question..

[Marcie]

So for about 7 months I've liked this one girl and I've now decided I don't like her anymore. And I'm not sure whether I should tell her this or not.. Because I had told her that I did like her, and she told me she liked me. (we weren't really dating yet though) So I don't know if I should just keep it to myself and not do anything or I should tell her about this new development.

[Shadoukun]

No, you should totally keep up the charade and just continue on as if you still DID like her.

[Marcie]

No, you should totally keep up the charade and just continue on as if you still DID like her.

Why? what is your reasoning behind this?

[AgusCO]

Why? what is your reasoning behind this?

Probably not hurting her,which you will end up doing if you get in a relationship with her anyway.
I say tell her, as for how, well, it's your choice, you can be nice or...not so much.

[Marcie]

Probably not hurting her,which you will end up doing if you get in a relationship with her anyway.
I say tell her, as for how, well, it's your choice, you can be nice or...not so much.

Don't you think letting her go on believing that I like her would be more mean than telling her that I no longer like her..

[AgusCO]

Don't you think letting her go on believing that I like her would be more mean than telling her that I no longer like her..

That's what I mean with "which you will probably end up doing if you get in a relationship with her anyway".
I would just tell her,though it might seem odd, maybe just wait until she tries to date you or something, because I can't imagine anyone telling somebody "I don't like you anymore" all of the sudden.

[Marcie]

That's what I mean with "which you will probably end up doing if you get in a relationship with her anyway".
I would just tell her,though it might seem odd, maybe just wait until she tries to date you or something, because I can't imagine anyone telling somebody "I don't like you anymore" all of the sudden.


Yeah that could be a little odd if I just randomly went and said that lol...
GHA! confusing lol

[Obscene Eyedeas]

Honesty is the best policy. you need to tell her if you don't like her. the longer you let this go on the more it will hurt her. sadly she will be hurt either way. 1. you tell her and it upsets her. 2. you don't and she finds out the hard way and looks for a relationship she won't get.
So imo you just need to be honest with Her

[ktmay96]

I agree with Archangel. You need to tell her. As i girl, i know i hate being led on. i went out with this guy, but it was 2 weeks before summer and he was mormon so he couldn't date and he didn't have a phone, etc. and it ended up we didn't see eachother until the beginning of the next year, and it was just awkward, so we brokeup. However, he still liked me and I still liked him, and i liked him for a quite sometime. My friend even asked him who he liked and later told me he still liked me, two months after we broke up, he said he still liked me. But, two days later, he asked out another girl. I know it pissed me off when I thought he still liked me and I found out by him asking someone else out. I would have rather him just tell me he didn't like me anymore. So, its better just to tell her.

[josh93]

you should tell her that you changed your mind but you still like her as a freind and you dont mean to hurt her feelings. thats what i think is the best thing to do. but its up to you.

[Arantor]

Ultimately, there are only two options here: You can tell her, or you don't tell her.

There's no workaround on this one.

If you tell her nice and calmly, don't panic and get nervous, and explain that you still want to be friends and continue your relationship as friends, then she'll most likely understand, sure she might be hurt but if she does like you, then she'll want to stay friends with you, it's the way it works. Even if someone knows you don't like them, 9 times out of 10 they will still try and stay as close to you as possible becauase they still want to be with you, and even being with you gives then satisfaction.

So like arch angel said, honesty is the best policy.

[Marcie]

Honesty is the best policy. you need to tell her if you don't like her. the longer you let this go on the more it will hurt her. sadly she will be hurt either way. 1. you tell her and it upsets her. 2. you don't and she finds out the hard way and looks for a relationship she won't get.
So imo you just need to be honest with Her

There really is no way she could find out that I don't like her anymore.. Every body still think I do.
But yeah.. I think I should probably just tell her.

[magikarpy]

Let's be realistic. Do not tell her. If you tell her she will immediately assume one of the following:
[a] you like someone else
[b] she did something wrong or is no longer physically attractive.

Do not tell her but don't tell her you still you still like her either. Just go along your day to day life just being friends but no longer in love with her. She'll pick up on it.

[Marcie]

Let's be realistic. Do not tell her. If you tell her she will immediately assume one of the following:
[a] you like someone else
[b] she did something wrong or is no longer physically attractive.

Do not tell her but don't tell her you still you still like her either. Just go along your day to day life just being friends but no longer in love with her. She'll pick up on it.

I do like someone else lol.

I wouldn't tell her I still like her, 'cause that would be lying.. And I don't do that :-)

[Arantor]

Magikarpy does have a few good points there.

What I think, Play it out. If she ask's, tell her. If she doesn't, just go on with your life.

There's no lying in that.

[magikarpy]

I do like someone else lol.

I wouldn't tell her I still like her, 'cause that would be lying.. And I don't do that :-)

Aww, thats refreshing. Yes, lying would not be good. If you do like this other person. The best course of action(if you are good friends with the original girl) is to ask her for advice. She'll most likely get excited about the drama of it and give you some advice(whether you need it or not).

Don't tell her you don't like her. Don't tell her you still like her. Tell her you need help with someone else you like. That way the focus is on this girl and not herself.

[Marcie]

Aww, thats refreshing. Yes, lying would not be good. If you do like this other person. The best course of action(if you are good friends with the original girl) is to ask her for advice. She'll most likely get excited about the drama of it and give you some advice(whether you need it or not).
Hmm maybe, but they probably have already seen this post :P


Don't tell her you don't like her. Don't tell her you still like her. Tell her you need help with someone else you like. That way the focus is on this girl and not herself.
hmm, I feel like that's not the nicest way to go about this... She has absolutely NO idea I like anyone that's not her.. And she knows I know that and she knows that I know that she likes me. I feel like it would be slightly odd and uncharacteristic of me to do that.

[relapse]

hmmm, i say, try and let her down slowly, and be nice about, being friends after is hard, but if you can pull it off with her [friends] then well done. it may not happen but just tell the truth, and compliment her!

[magikarpy]

Hmm maybe, but they probably have already seen this post :P

Well then.
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[Marcie]

hmmm, i say, try and let her down slowly, and be nice about, being friends after is hard, but if you can pull it off with her [friends] then well done. it may not happen but just tell the truth, and compliment her!

I think she is mature enough to continue to be friends. At lest I hope so. I really value her as a friend.
And compliment?