I really don't like my best friend's girlfriend

[Erika]

Right...my friend and his girlfriend have been together since november now and they are awful to be around. They are constantly snogging and seem to have no sense of personal space. This sounds really petty and i'm fine with people being personal with each other...but when it's as constant as they are, it's pretty damned ridiculous.
He's got really wierd in these past months that he's been with her, he's been grounded pretty much non stop since the beginning of december after spending stupid hours riding to and from her house, spending most of his money on her and having a massive phone bill. He's given up almost everything that he likes doing to spend time with her and it's only by begging that she actually allows him to still come kayaking on sundays. It's like she controls everything he does but I know for a fact that she has been with other guys, and now my friend is cutting himself but wont admit that she is cheating on him and using him. I don't know what to do because i want him to be happy, and it seems like if he stays with her or not, he's going to unhappy.

[PuppetPrince]

I have some awful feeling in my gut , that i will be in your position one day.

Anyways , why dont you just try to bring back some old memories of the things he used to do. since you are his besty, you should know plenty of things to do. Just dont allow that girl in for once. just once. If he is going to be unhappy anyways like you are telling me. Then just talk to him about it, be really serious and just tell him what you feel and what she has done to him. If you do not do anything, then how the hell do you think you are going to do something. You have to do some sort of action.

[Hollywood]

Well, this is a very touchy situation. But, like Jon said, you have to get involved if you want to help your friend out. Hang out with him and tell him you are worried, and he should open up to you. From there, maybe you can convince him that his girfriend is not right for him.

Hope everything works out.

[Contra]

You should be honest with your friend and tell him what you really think.
None of us likes to see our friends suffer, so if you want to solve the situation, talk to him.

[pixie1234]

hmm i think you should talk to your friend about it, try and make him see sense. good luck :) xx

[magikarpy]

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If you try to talk to her about it take extra care to be considerate of feelings and what not. People tend to get VERY defensive when talking about there significant other. I know from experience.