Obviously I'm considering something

[Jagster]

Obviously I'm considering something. Here's a quick Q and A for you.

What?: Adoption
Who?: Me
When?: I dunno, now?
Where?: anywhere
Why?: I'm fed up with my mom and brother bitching at me. No one in my family shows me respect and never understands me. Adoption is my last hope before I go to self harm and suicide.

[Perseus]

I don't think you can put yourself up for adoption.
And suicide is never the answer, I could care less if I sound like an idiot for saying something that's so obvious, but it needs to be said since you put that as an option.

[staying_alive]

Yeah man, just spend time outside of the home more. Be a rebel. Don't let your family bring you down just because they suck ass. Go have fun being a teenager because that's what it's about.

Why go to suicide? That'd be pointless. You realize that in less than 5 years you'll be on your own? I know you want to make them feel horrible for their treatment of you, but being successful in life and never coming back will be punishment enough.

[SlightlySane]

Honestly I don't think you have much to say you need out. You haven't given an explanation other than "being bitched at" which isn't much reason to leave.
Also you are 13, young. Do you ever step back and ask if you are showing respect first before wanting to receive it?
Self harm and suicide to me seem stupid in this situation. Killing yourself for "being bitched at." Maybe you have a terrible home life, but you haven't explained that to me.
It seems like a simple cry for attention. Slow down, take a step back and think things through.

[pontiacdriver]

Obviously I'm considering something. Here's a quick Q and A for you.

What?: Adoption
Who?: Me
When?: I dunno, now?
Where?: anywhere
Why?: I'm fed up with my mom and brother bitching at me. No one in my family shows me respect and never understands me. Adoption is my last hope before I go to self harm and suicide.

I would take a bunch of steps back here and look at the overall situation. Being 13 is not easy as you have one foot in childhood and one in adulthood, and my guess is no one takes you seriously. With your profile listing your living on an Air Force base I am sure you have moved around a lot when one or both of your parents have been redeployed which must make it especially hard because you probably do not have a group of life long friends on whom you can rely.

I have noticed that you live on Fairchild AFB, and there are usually a lot of resources availabe to family of servicepeople. What I mean is that there are definitely counselors on Base who can help you, and you should look them up as there is no shame in talking out your feelings. You might want to try the Health and Wellness Center as a start (http://www.fairchild.af.mil/newcomers/healthandwellnesscenter/index.asp) and go from there. I know that Base bureacracy is probably a hassle, and it might take a couple of tries to find the right department which can help you. However, I am positive that your community would have resources for people like you as I can promise you that you are not the only kid on base who is feeling bad. Trust me, what you are feeling is what so many others are feeling normally, and you have the stress of living on a Base compounding that.

Another option you have is talking to your school counselor or trust teacher to get their opinion on something. I am sure you must have all of their e-mails, and you do not have to physically see them initially if you are afraid about face-to-face contact.

Don't get discouraged as nearly all of us were in your shoes when we were 13, and things will get better. Believe me, it does help a lot to talk things out with someone responsible, and don't keep everything inside. If at least one of your parents is somewhat reasonable, then try to talk with him/her first. If not, make use of resources on base or at school as the resources are out there to help you. Especially with the USAF placing a priority on family wellness nowadays you really should make use of what is on base before hurting yourself.

P.S. You might want to try the following links as they might help:

1) http://apps.mhf.dod.mil/pls/psgprod/f?p=MYOM:HOME:1479818227776167
2) http://www.militaryfamily.org/get-info/mental-health-care/caring-for-kids/
3) http://www.militaryfamily.org/publications/deployment-family-research/toolkits.html
4) http://www.militaryonesource.com/MOS/AirForce.aspx?MRole=Family&Branch=AirForce&Component=Active
5) http://www.militaryhomefront.dod.mil/

Believe me, a lot of folks understand through what you are going, and a lot of families on Base are probably going through a lot of stress. Chances are your family have other problems but are basically using you as an emotional punching bag. Also, with your wanting to be taken seriously and with your family still probably viewing you as a little kid it is probably especially hard for you. Just be really careful from where you get love and attention as that should and must come from your family. No one can ever take the place of your family, and you all just need to work on communication. I would not give up on them, and just remember that everyone has had the same problem as you are having right now. Just make use of resources around you as there are a lot.

[Peace God]

Adoption is my last hope before I go to self harm and suicide.
Those have to be the three worst ways to solve your problems.

[Hollywood]

what does suicide solve? really, what does it fulfill?

all of the problems will still be there, but they will be magnified 5x. hurting yourself, same thing, problem is still there. think about all of the people who are murdered, or run over in a hit-and-run, or those who died in 9/11. I bet they would be more than happy to have your life, instead of dying and losing everything.

life is a precious gift, wether you see it that way or not. do right during your early life, and you will be thankful later on, when you have a good job and a great family. do bad, and all of that is gone. I think you know the right move.

[Jagster]

Why go to suicide? That'd be pointless. You realize that in less than 5 years you'll be on your own? I know you want to make them feel horrible for their treatment of you, but being successful in life and never coming back will be punishment enough.

That's exactly the punishment I want on them. I put myself in two lifes. School life and Home life. The only reason I'm put for self harm is cause they both suck.

Self harm and suicide to me seem stupid in this situation. Killing yourself for "being bitched at." Maybe you have a terrible home life, but you haven't explained that to me.

It's not like I can turn around my life for either one of them, I don't have that power. And yes, my home life has just been the worst. I don't even love my mom, and I'm about to pull a card that she knows she doesn't want happening. It's less than self harm and suicide, it's more of, not coming to anything she invites me to when I'm out of the house on my own. Even her own funeral, I won't go to.

what does suicide solve? really, what does it fulfill?

all of the problems will still be there, but they will be magnified 5x. hurting yourself, same thing, problem is still there. think about all of the people who are murdered, or run over in a hit-and-run, or those who died in 9/11. I bet they would be more than happy to have your life, instead of dying and losing everything.

life is a precious gift, wether you see it that way or not. do right during your early life, and you will be thankful later on, when you have a good job and a great family. do bad, and all of that is gone. I think you know the right move.

Still, without killing myself, I can't do a single thing in this world. At school, no one usually hangs out with me, I'm shunned, made fun of, and have rumors started about me. School life is a total hell-hole. Oh yeah, and did I mention how my relationship plans are going? I've been rejected by 10 girls, in a two-three month period. So really, what's the point of finding someone to be my girlfriend. I'm too superstitious that I'm just gonna get rejected again. Why? Pretty much all the girls in my grade are so stuck-up and more focused on the "cooler looking, cooler personality" kids. Really, that's just shallow of them. Maybe my counselor is right, no girl in the grade deserves what I have to offer.

[Kaius]

Believe me, i couldn't help but feel something inside me sink when i read this. There are a lot of people, close friends of mine even on this site that have far worse problems at home than being 'bitched at' that either haven't turned to cutting, or are recovering from it. Take a step back and see how much you do have. Girls aren't the most important thing here, if you keep being rejected maybe its a sign you just need to concentrate on other things for a while. Although i hate this quote it seems quite adequate in this position "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". You're 13 years old with a full life ahead of you, life isn't always flowers and rainbows otherwise you'd never learn for yourself. This isn't a rant, or a lecture I'm just explaining that you've always got other choices. Try getting out of the house more, join some clubs in or out of school. It'll keep you out of the way of any unnecessary arguments with family and you might even meet some new friends or even a girlfriend. If you need to talk then feel free to pm me, but just remember you could be a lot worse off than you are now.

[Perseus]

Still, without killing myself, I can't do a single thing in this world. At school, no one usually hangs out with me, I'm shunned, made fun of, and have rumors started about me. School life is a total hell-hole. Oh yeah, and did I mention how my relationship plans are going? I've been rejected by 10 girls, in a two-three month period. So really, what's the point of finding someone to be my girlfriend. I'm too superstitious that I'm just gonna get rejected again. Why? Pretty much all the girls in my grade are so stuck-up and more focused on the "cooler looking, cooler personality" kids. Really, that's just shallow of them. Maybe my counselor is right, no girl in the grade deserves what I have to offer.

Dude, you're thirteen. You're in seventh or eighth grade. You have plenty of time to get a girl friend, I mean, you're not even in high school yet. And plus, what's the point for you having a girlfriend at thirteen? Let me tell you, there's so much you can do without going anywhere.

If you kill yourself just because you're bullied or something, those kids will just be like, "oh, that little bitch killed himself? Doesn't surprise me". Killing yourself won't solve anything, especially over something as simple as that.

[Kaya]

trying emancipation would work better.

[Hollywood]

Still, without killing myself, I can't do a single thing in this world. At school, no one usually hangs out with me, I'm shunned, made fun of, and have rumors started about me. School life is a total hell-hole. Oh yeah, and did I mention how my relationship plans are going? I've been rejected by 10 girls, in a two-three month period. So really, what's the point of finding someone to be my girlfriend. I'm too superstitious that I'm just gonna get rejected again. Why? Pretty much all the girls in my grade are so stuck-up and more focused on the "cooler looking, cooler personality" kids. Really, that's just shallow of them. Maybe my counselor is right, no girl in the grade deserves what I have to offer.

Look, I've been rejected by hundreds of girls, I have very few friends, my father is a drunken idiot, and I get made fun of all the time. That's my life, but you don't see me wanting to kill myself, do you? See, that is NO reason to kill yourself, some people have really shitty lives, much, much worse than yours. You're only 13, for god's sake, you have so much ahead of you, so you can't say you've had a bad life because you haven't even started yet.

[Blood]

First of all, you can't put yourself up for adoption. You're underage therefore your parent(s) still have legal custody over you.

And second, suicide isnt the answer. Trust me, I know.

And so what if girls reject you? Obviously they're not the right girls for you. You're only 13, you don't have to have a girlfriend right now. Just wait, you're gonna find your right girl, or she might find you.