i need help.

[xxfirekitten.]

i know i'm new here, but i kinda joined to get help..
i've been self harming since i was 11. but recently, it's got worse. recently, i've been cutting my wrist and arms. i'm really depressed at the moment.i can't tell anyone though. i did it last year, and when my school found out and told my parents and i had to go to the doctor and i got a mentor and everything. but my mentor dosen't help at all. i told one of my only close friends, and she spazzed at me. she said it's because of the music i listen to, but personally i think bring me the horizon, my chemical romance and black veil brides are amazing.
i don't know what to do.

[deletemeandmypostplz]

i used to stab myself in class, everyone would freak andvi wanted to suicide. just take some deep breathes and think about why you are depressed, why you harm yourself. face the issue head on. try listening to real, good, uplifting, calming, and ambient music (i can type a txt file playlist via ftp or email), start drawing and doodling in your notebook, talk to people, pick up an instrument like the guitar and start singing blues, jazz, R'n'B, Soul. have sex with your girlfriend, read books, start doing Parcour, do yoga and tai-chi. there is no need to end it all, your still young and have a long, great wonderful life to live. "I dare you while there is still time to have a magnificent obsession."

[xxfirekitten.]

thanks for your help.. <3
but, whenever i doodle (like you said i should) if i'm depressed or angry they turn into nasty scrawls of horribleness (example - me stabbing someone) and yeah i get like that, and you said 'have sex with your girlfriend' dude i'm a girl :P

[deletemeandmypostplz]

oh, im a guy so you can f* me or your boyfriend ^-^. just.drop the pencil on the paper and let your hand move in straight lines in random directions without thinking. it helps alot to just doodle and freewrite without thinking and just letting the image or words comeout on their own without thought.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Hello there - It's a good thing you decided to join and reach out to us here. Real-life support is always the optimal choice, but there are certainly cases where it may not seem to work out. Keep in mind, though, that most people will seek out a number of different professionals and treatment options before really committing oneself to the idea that it dosen't help - especially with psychotherapy, whether or not one is able to feel comfortable with that person can make all the difference. Just because one attempt at it was unsuccessful, dosen't mean the next one will end the same way.

Kitsune has mentioned some interesting ideas for alternatives to self-harm - these may work well as short-term distractions, but for long-term recovery, the underlyin issues behind the self-harm must be addressed - what do you think has caused you to be depressed?

Before I forget, welcome to the community; I sincerely hope that you may find the help you have come to seek. Feel free to contact me privately any time if you want to talk about anything.

All the best to you.

[KChiChi]

hey. welcome to VT... ah, were all the cool kids with enough thoughts in their head join and talk.
^ok, i know i'm odd :) but there's a reason for my insanity. the fact that you know you're doing wrong means that there's nothing wrong with you, it's just a minor depressive period you're going through. if it's getting worse, find a hobbie. personally, i love the music you listen to. as far as i'm concerned, chemical romance doesn't influence nothing but a smile. if friends spaz you, then just know that they might not know what you're going through.

hang on there, okay?? and smile.
:) pm me if you need someone to talk to :D

[deletemeandmypostplz]

your always welcome to talk to me about anything. i'm online alot so my responses would be pretty quick. idk, things like that help me for anything, then again i'm not the average teen.

[lovebug]

Try hanging out with friends: go lasertagging, to the arcade, to the beach/park. Attend concerts, scream on impulse.

Realize you are alive, and free yourself, open yourself up to all of the possibilities.

If you like things that are dangerous: try alternatives. Go to amusement parks, ride the scariest ride possible. Try bungee jumping.

I can't promise you a complete change in perspective, but maybe if you talk to me I could help you out with some things. You can tell me your story, and I can tell you mine. Mine could interest you. PM me, and tell me all about yourself. Can you draw, write, sing, dance, play an instrument?

I know it doesn't seem like it, but music can change you. I listened to that music, and had tons of friends that listened to the same music. But I turned bitter, angry, and disturbed. I'm not asking you to change your music style: because, MCR has some great tracks and I'm a big fan, but don't limit yourself. Don't become one of those "Music-Is-My-Life-And-Nobody-Understands-Me" kind of girls. Listen to some classic rock, how about Aerosmith? Metallica? How about indie, you'll be surprised how many amazing artists are out there. Techno's interesting too.
Don't limit yourself.