Art_dude
April 1st, 2010, 05:24 PM
(I was originally gonna post this in "Relationships and Dating" but since I think the main question is how to approach my friends about this issue I posted it here. Move me if I'm wrong Mods!)
So here's the thing: My two best friends Audrey and Beth (they're both sisters and very close. We hang out a lot) whom I love and adore, are kind of confusing me. I've been single for a WHILE now, and I've been looking to get back in the dating game. Nothing serious, just something fun. If it turns into something more, than great. If not, that's cool too. Just want to date again, you know what I mean? So anyway, they obviously are aware of this all and have claimed to be on the 'look out' for someone to set me up with. But they NEVER find anyone (I'm not complaining so much as I'm frustrated. I realize it's not their job to find me a relationship or set me up, but I feel they're not finding anyone because they have an inflated idea of who I should be with)
I constantly tell them, "Look I appreciate it and love you guys for wanting to help me, but you'll never find someone for me if you keep searching for this perfect person. I told you, it really doesn't matter that much to me. Basically someone you know, that's sweet and could potentially hit it off with me." I'll be at a social gathering with them and I'll point and say, "See that cute girl over there? she seemed nice. We talked a bit. What do you think?" and then they start off "oh she has issues," or, "She has a lot of baggage" and "you don't need that drama..." And they go on about how I deserve better than that, and blah blah blah. It's very sweet and I'm so flattered they want me to be that happy but it's kind of over the top. What should I say to them?
((and just as a side note before you jump in and comment, I obviously have taken it upon myself to be friendly and find girls I'm interested in - I'm in NO WAY saying I'm soley asking them to find me someone. They're just helping is all. I don't want people to get the impression I brought them into this and that I'm ungrateful. They offered their services lol))
So here's the thing: My two best friends Audrey and Beth (they're both sisters and very close. We hang out a lot) whom I love and adore, are kind of confusing me. I've been single for a WHILE now, and I've been looking to get back in the dating game. Nothing serious, just something fun. If it turns into something more, than great. If not, that's cool too. Just want to date again, you know what I mean? So anyway, they obviously are aware of this all and have claimed to be on the 'look out' for someone to set me up with. But they NEVER find anyone (I'm not complaining so much as I'm frustrated. I realize it's not their job to find me a relationship or set me up, but I feel they're not finding anyone because they have an inflated idea of who I should be with)
I constantly tell them, "Look I appreciate it and love you guys for wanting to help me, but you'll never find someone for me if you keep searching for this perfect person. I told you, it really doesn't matter that much to me. Basically someone you know, that's sweet and could potentially hit it off with me." I'll be at a social gathering with them and I'll point and say, "See that cute girl over there? she seemed nice. We talked a bit. What do you think?" and then they start off "oh she has issues," or, "She has a lot of baggage" and "you don't need that drama..." And they go on about how I deserve better than that, and blah blah blah. It's very sweet and I'm so flattered they want me to be that happy but it's kind of over the top. What should I say to them?
((and just as a side note before you jump in and comment, I obviously have taken it upon myself to be friendly and find girls I'm interested in - I'm in NO WAY saying I'm soley asking them to find me someone. They're just helping is all. I don't want people to get the impression I brought them into this and that I'm ungrateful. They offered their services lol))