My friend's condition is worsening

[Katrina]

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=67384&highlight=My+best+friend+tested+positive+for+AIDS

I just don't know what to do. Each morning when I see her, I feel she is more tired, stressed out than what she was the previous day. We still have kept the matter as a secret. The doctor is also helping a lot. The problem is that my best friend has lost all her interest in anything including studies. Due to this she is facing the ire of the teachers. To get out from this hell me, my best friend and my BF are going on a trip to all the holy places in India. In fact it was my best friend's idea inspite of the doctor's, my and my BF's advice of not traveling as it can increase her risk of infections. But she is very adamant about it and we had to submit to her request.
I just hope that everything goes fine.

[CuriousDestruction]

I am so sorry to hear about this Katrina. AIDs is a terrible disease that can disable a person before they know it. You are right. Traveling increases the risk of infection, especially going to places you don't know, your body isn't used to them. and i hate to say this. but i feel obligated to be honest about this. It's possible your friend has accepted defeat. that she just wants to live her life out of the hell you are in for as long as she has left. this doesn't make it true scientifically, but it sounds like she is giving up psychologically. i don't know the exact purpose of your trip, but you may want to be prepared for her to talk to you about this at some point. i wish you the best, and feel free to PM me any time.

[Sith Lord 13]

The first question is, does you friend have HIV or AIDS. If she still has HIV, this trip is not quite as risky as if she had already advanced to AIDS.

Second, if you friend is very religious, traveling to these places may give her the courage to keep on fighting and even improve her condition (whether it is due to religious intervention or placebo effect).

Third, stress taxes the immune system. If the situation is really that bad at school, the trip may do more good than harm by reducing her stress levels.

Fourth, you can't let a medical condition rule your life. Speaking as someone who is considered terminally ill (most likely 20 years+ in the future, but still dying), you can't let a condition rule your life. You have to accommodate for it, yes, but if you let it rule your life, you're better off dead.

The only advice I can give you is to be supportive. Help her, be there for. Trust in the doctors. If, you're so inclined, trust in God. But above all, trust in your friend. If she says she had to do this, she has to do this.

I wish you the best, and both you and her are in my thoughts.

PS. My PM box is always open if you need more help.

[Zephyr]

Sorry to hear it's worsening.

My dad's uncle died of AIDS, and while I never met the man, according to my dad, towards the end of the ordeal he just stopped caring and got depressed. I think it's a good idea for her to get out and enjoy herself so that she doesn't fall into that same trap as my great uncle. Even if she is doing it against everybody's wishes, it will be good for her mentality at least. Maybe it'll be a refresher that she needs to get back on track.

[Katrina]

I am so sorry to hear about this Katrina. AIDs is a terrible disease that can disable a person before they know it. You are right. Traveling increases the risk of infection, especially going to places you don't know, your body isn't used to them. and i hate to say this. but i feel obligated to be honest about this. It's possible your friend has accepted defeat. that she just wants to live her life out of the hell you are in for as long as she has left. this doesn't make it true scientifically, but it sounds like she is giving up psychologically. i don't know the exact purpose of your trip, but you may want to be prepared for her to talk to you about this at some point. i wish you the best, and feel free to PM me any time.
Even I think my friend has accepted defeat. We both are going to a counselor and I am feeling a lot better now, but she is not. Perhaps he is good for me but not for her.

The first question is, does you friend have HIV or AIDS. If she still has HIV, this trip is not quite as risky as if she had already advanced to AIDS.
She has already advanced to AIDS.

Second, if you friend is very religious, traveling to these places may give her the courage to keep on fighting and even improve her condition (whether it is due to religious intervention or placebo effect).
Yes, she is very religious.

Third, stress taxes the immune system. If the situation is really that bad at school, the trip may do more good than harm by reducing her stress levels.
Infact the teachers are now thinking that she has become one of those spoilt girls who bunk school daily. But she is the dead opposite of that.





Sorry to hear it's worsening.

My dad's uncle died of AIDS, and while I never met the man, according to my dad, towards the end of the ordeal he just stopped caring and got depressed. I think it's a good idea for her to get out and enjoy herself so that she doesn't fall into that same trap as my great uncle. Even if she is doing it against everybody's wishes, it will be good for her mentality at least. Maybe it'll be a refresher that she needs to get back on track.
I hope that it becomes good for her mind and the trip refreshes her.

We have bought our tickets for tomorrow, I hope that just all goes fine.