Help!!

[Baluba]

I need your help. Now!

My mom knows I cut myself. She called my teachers and my boyfriend, and now she knows everything. And she keeps bothering me, asking to see my scars, trying to make me feel bad (by saying things like "you don't deserve your boyfriends love when you don't even love yourself" - which isn't true, it's so much more complicated than that), and I HATE IT.

My mom thinks that she has every right in the world to control my life and know everything about me, even if she has never done a nice thing to me in my life. I mean, come on. You find out your daughter cuts herself, and all you do is yell at her and try to break her down? What. The. Fuck. I am just so angry and so upset and all I want to do is cut myself again but I can't because my mom is fucking spying on me 24/7. I know she does it because she loves me, but it's just wrong and she should know it. I will not show her my scars. I will not tell her all of my deepest secrets because she does not deserve them. She will find out anyway, of course, because I spoke to my teachers when I was in trouble and she will call them. All I can think of is to scream "FUCK OFF!", so what should I do?????!!!

[KChiChi]

Gosh, finally!! some misunderstood teenager like me!!
um.. not like i'm supporting the fact that you're breaking down but i can actually relate with you!! i haven't come up with a way to make my own mom lay off... so i don't know how to help you. but the least i can say is don't ignore your mom -she's trying to help and even though she's doing it wrong, be grateful that at least she's doing something. actually, this is better. imagine if she found out and ignored it. next thing you know, you'll be trying to get her attention in a worse way... like cutting more... deeper...

my mom doesn't believe that i'm depressed -wants to terribly believe that i'm happy. she's doing it all wrong -buying me stuff and telling everyone what a great kid i am. i know i'm not and she's not really trying to make me believe i'm now, just kind of trying to buy me out (if that makes sense) so all i can be happy about is the fact that she's trying to do anything. i have no idea what extremes i'd go through if she was ignoring me...

i don't know if i've helped. ignore me if i haven't.
anyway, smile. :). PM me if you need someone to talk to...

[pixie1234]

oh God i can remember when my mum found out, i wanted her to know though 'cos i was done lying so i told the school who got her involved. after that she wouldnt leave me alone! now its been 6 or so months since she found out and she doesnt watch me anymore :/ xxx

[Baluba]

omg, it's SO good to know that I'm not alone!! KChiChi: I can totally relate to how you're feeling, but my problem is like the opposite I guess... Because I try to be happy, and I was actually kinda stopping to cut myself and moving on to different things, but my mom is just yelling at me and pulling me back down...

GASH. Parents suck.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Tell her that you have a right to your own privacy, and that if she cares that much to be willing to go to such extremes, she should care enough to respect it. Have you tried speaking up about her behaviour? If not - that usually is your best bet as a starting point. It should be a conversation, not a confrontation - speak your mind calmly, and even if she starts getting emotional on you, don't respond back the same way, for any sensible argument would be drowned out in the face of powerful passions. Leave her with something to really think about.

Best of luck to you.

[CuriousDestruction]

well first i gotta say, calm down. hot anger won't help any and probably make the situation worse. 2nd, i know you don't like that she spies on you, and i wouldn't tolerate it either, but she sounds scared. she doesn't know what's happening to her baby girl right now. she is being a protective mama. wouldn't you do the same thing? 3rd, i recommend talking to her about it or seeing a therapist. Therapists can listen to you and help with your mom. and the cutting for that matter. and if you talk to your mother, calmly, she may listen to you.

[The Redlight Bandit]

don't hold back, tell her how you feel. no matter hwta the consequences, maybe she'll listen. good luck!

[Peace God]

she has never done a nice thing to me in my life.
:confused::what::confused::what:

She will find out anyway, of course, because I spoke to my teachers when I was in trouble and she will call them. the teachers might not say everything...most of time they dont break your trust unless it's life threatening information

All I can think of is to scream "FUCK OFF!", so what should I do?????!!!
first of all calm down, cutting is a very dangerous life threatening habit that has to stop
then tell her she handled the situation wrong and you are feeling even worse because of it

sounds like your mom did some wrong things but trust me, it's better that she knows

[Sith Lord 13]

Family therapy can be really helpful, if done right. It will give you a place to speak with your mother and, hopefully, someone who can explain to your mother what she can do to help you.