Help!!!!

[kiki776]

:blowup::whip:theres dis guy i know and he keeps BEGGING me for "phone sex". i say NO and he keeps saying plz for me? den i say NO, and he keeps begging me to AGAIN! i wanna hang up so bad but i dont wanta lose him as my fwend! ppl i need some MAJOR advice

[Kaius]

If he was a proper friend he would understand that no means no. You would be better off just hanging up on him, and if he walks, then he walks it just goes to show how good of a friend he is. In any case it sounds like he's just using you to be honest.

[kiki776]

i know right?! i think hesitance using me too and it makes me mad

[Fusion]

Let him be for a few days, don't talk to him or answer your phone if it is him, a true friend would understand when the word no is said it means stop.

[Scarface]

IF you say not to him It should be very clear no means NO. If he does not understand this then you need to hang up on him ignore him and move on. There are plenty of boys out there to talk to that aren't just On it for the sex explicit things. Just move on period.

[Hollywood]

i agree with brad. just ignore him maybe he'll get the idea. no means no, you dont have to reveal yourself to anyone.

[CuriousDestruction]

i'd ignore him. he has no right to demand phone sex. you don't have to do that.

[kiki776]

i havent called him in 4eve! but he wants 2 b friends wit bennifits

[pontiacdriver]

i havent called him in 4eve! but he wants 2 b friends wit bennifits

My guess is the fact that you have made this thread shows that you clearly respect your body and do not just want to share it with anyone, but you want to keep this guy as your friend. The reality is that in puberty people change, sometimes not for the better, and I am guessing that is the case with your friend. Chances are your friend was pretty cool and fun until he hit puberty, but now he is just using you thinking that you are an easy target and that he can pretty much treat you like a blow up doll. If you respect your body and feelings, then I would break things off with this guy until he can get a handle on his sexuality. You do not deserve to be treated the way you are, and the basic issue here is that you have made your preferences known but this guy has not respected them. You need to be around folks who bring out the best in you and not the worst.

As for being "friends with benefits," things are never that simple, and loosing one's virginity is a huge deal. Also, sex is so much more than sticking a penis into a vagina (or anus depending upon one's sexuality) as there is a major emotional connection going on. I think your friend has been watching way too much porn and basically thinks he can treat real life folks like that.

It is your choice on what you want to do, but unless you can do the following, then I would break things off with your friend:


Your parents being all right with your doing sexual things
Your being able to see a doctor if you have some complications from sexual complications
Your being on birth control if you and your friend decide to go all the way
Your friend being able to get condoms if you all get serious


At 13 you should still enjoy being young without much responsibility as sex makes things so much more complicated on many levels. I am not saying sex is bad, but I would wait until you are older as things will be so much better to have sex on your terms and when you are ready as opposed to satisfying the urges of some horny jerk who does not respect you.