What should I do??

[cassann08]

I have a guy friend who is in the year below me. I really like him and I want to do something about it but I don't want to jeopardise our friendship. He told me that he's "not the relationship type" but I disagree. I'm not just saying that because I like him, but because I honestly believe that it's not true.

We have a lot more in common than I think he realises and what I like about him the most is the fact that unlike most of my friends (girls and guys), he's really the only one who "gets" me.

Among other things :yummy:

We have planned to go to the movies in the holidays. Should I say something then, or just wait it out a bit longer?

Let me just make it perfectly clear that I really REALLY like this guy and if pushing the topic would upset him in any way then I'll leave it alone. I wouldn't give up his friendship for anything in the world :)

[Mattasaur94]

Well, First off, welcome to VT.

Assuming that you've already talked to him about it...
He told me that he's "not the relationship type" but I disagree.

Then perhaps you could talk to him again, when your ready, about why he isn't the "relationship type". There's quite a few reasons guys don't run off and get into multiple relationships, but I'm not him (;)) So you wold have to talk to him about it.

He could like someone else, already be in a relationship, he might just like being single, he might not like you in that way and doesn't want to hurt you, he might just not think that your his type... There's heaps of reasons, which one is true is a harder question. But not ALL guys are shallow and will step in and out of a relationship. :P

We have planned to go to the movies in the holidays. Should I say something then, or just wait it out a bit longer?
Up to you, either just enjoy the movie and his company, or bring it up. I'm sure it'd only be as awkwards as you make it, nothing is ever as bad as it seems.

I wouldn't give up his friendship for anything in the world :)

What about that inevitable awkward-ex's-phase afterwards?

[OnceMoreWithFeeling]

i have the same problem, but i think that he likes my younger sister. Rawr! if you really really like him tell him, or invite him on causal "dates" like the movies. But just you two, and see if he makes any moves. good luck!

[cassann08]

What about that inevitable awkward-ex's-phase afterwards?
I don't think there always has to be an awkward phase. There probably would be for a period of time but I think that we are both mature enough to not let it get to our friendship (or at least I hope so).

He's such a good person though. I've seen some (not all) of the people he hangs out with and I can tell that he's not like them - he's actually quite mysterious in a way >_>

I'm just a bit lost atm...:(

[cassann08]

I don't think I know how to quote properly :S
That quote in the box is what you said Mattasaur94

[cooldude123]

Well, if it was me, i would think it through. Would you be willing to accept the arkwardness if it doesn't work? If your okay with this, or think it wouldn't happen, then go ahead.

I learnt to tell people how i feel, then keep it to myself. No matter how hard it can be sometimes, good will always come out of it in the end.

So, to put it simple, i would ask him. The movies is a perfect time, trust me.