her problem!

[aussie_chub]

hello my name is blakeand my girlfriend and i are very happy together and enjoy each others company but she is very self concious and wont even hold my hand let alone let me kiss her or hug her or anything and it is because o some bad things that her father did to her when she was little. can someone give me advice on what to do here i want to be with her but i want her t want to kiss or sleep together.

[KChiChi]

have you tried taking it one step at a time?? talking to her... that always works, i think.

[Kaius]

If its something that serious its going to take her some time to be able to adjust to this. This will also mean you have to be patient with her, as something as traumatic as that could leave some bad effects. Talk to her, tell her that you're there for her and most importantly dont rush her, its more likely to push her away from you further. Just let her do these things in her own time.

[kiki776]

talk to her first to figure out y

[Fusion]

Communication is the key, she seems to of had a bad experience with a male, which has now put her off, it will take time to re-work it, so just be patient, 1 step at a time. :)

[aussie_chub]

thanks i have tried everythin i have talked to her about it and she has admitted wat happened and she told me she loves me but she isnt ready for anything more yet but i dont really mind about that im fine to wait i want to help her but i dont know how ive never been through wat she has so i cant tell how she feels and i just wat her to be happy but i can se something behind her eyes that troubles me very much.

[ktmay96]

By what I read, it seems like you really do love her. Tell her that. Let her know that you love her and care for her, and you would never do anything bad to her. Let her know you are willing to wait until she is ready because you want her to be happy and comfortable. I'm sure she will really appreciate it. Also, be there for her. Obviously, whatever happened with her father was traumatic, and she will probably need support. Let her know you are there for her.
i cant tell how she feels and i just wat her to be happy but i can se something behind her eyes that troubles me very much.
That something is I'm guessing fear or just her memories of her past. She will be happy, I'm sure, if you let her know you love her, you will be there for her, and that you will do only what she is comfortable with
It will take time, but she will eventually begin to trust you and herself and let you hug her or kiss her. Take it slow. Patience will be necessary, as well as your support.

hope this helps! :)

[aussie_chub]

thank you ktmay96 that was helpful it isnt like im making her or anything im glad to wait for her i was just worried about it thats all

[MacMilker]

we call that a prude here (:

dump her

[Jess]

we call that a prude here (:

dump her


um that is not helping at all

believe me if I was dating a boy he would find me not wanting to be kissed