How to Tell Him

[Lawrence P]

I'm gay and i want to tell a friend i like him but i don't know how to and i don't even know if hes gay or bi, but i don't want to lose a friend if hes not.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Giles]

Drop hints, try to find out what he feels about gays. If he reacts badly, then don't tell him - If he doesn't seem to mind, then go ahead and try to tell him.

There's nothing more to it really, if he is straight - don't try anything with him. It's not worth losing a friend over.

[Brayden]

As Benmullet suggested, the careful approach would be to drop subtle hints and see what happens. Some people can be really dense though, so it may or may not work, depending on how attentive your friend is.

You could start out by telling him that you might be gay, or that you have some homosexual thoughts; you do NOT have to come right out and tell him that you're 'into' him. If he can't accept the fact that you're gay, the friendship wouldn't last anyways. It's not something that you can hide forever and still be happy.

Good luck, and I hope things work out for the best.

[Kitty Purry]

I would say drop little hints and basically he might find out that you are gay. But if he is homophobic I wouldn't advise you to tell him.

[Nelson]

I agree with all above.. But if your friend "de-friends" you. That means they arent a true friend

[sam i am]

Just ask him when u guys are alone say are u my friend no matter what? and if he say yes than just say it . BUt the liking part i think u need to let him get used to the face ur gay cuz something like that is really a big deal to some people.

[Scarface]

Coming out to friends can be pretty scary because you don't know how they will react and the whole 9 nine yards of being accepted. If they are your true friend they will accept you for who you are and you will go about things like normal. When I came out to my friend's I found out my true friends were because mostly all of them accepted me and only a few didn't, but you know what If they don't want to be my friend because of my preference instead of my personality then I can always make new friends. You could start a conversation about "what do you think about homosexuality" and then see what he has to say. Or you could drop hints as said above. Just remember when you come out be proud of who you are and don't let anyone tell you who you are or should be. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. If you ever want someone to talk to or need advice PM me anytime I'm always on. Hope this helps.

[HotJuan]

If you dont know if he will accept it or not. Just ask him things like,'Hey how do you feel about gays or bisexuals?' or something like that.

[trae96]

I think you should go for it

[mattvt94]

just simply ask him if he is gay or straight and then base ure next question on that if he is your pal he wont care and before u say anything say i mean this in all actuality and i not jokin around

[sum1got2]

I have to agree- make sure he's okay with the gay/bi thing first. Otherwise, you don't want to tell someone who will use it to hurt you. This is totally assuming not everyone knows already. But if you think he'd be okay with it- tell him! sometimes that's the best way. It feels good to be honest and open.