Attracted to your HOST SIBLING

[Tyler92]

Hey,
I am really confused lately. I am a foreign exchange student from the US and am staying in France for 1 year.
On a trip to paris I slept with my hostbrother in one bed. Over the evening when his parents were asleep we started fooling around. After a little while it got more intense <sexual details removed> he rejected and told me to stop. The reason was, he was seeing me as his brother or something. I knew I was gay and I felt sexual attraction to him before, but never knew he was gay also.

So after a weird night, I thought it would never happen again, but secretly wanted more. A few days later we went to our room to get ready for dinner. Nobody was in the room. He started locking the door and was sitting on my bed and kinda cuddled. I liked it and didn't refuse. After all the same thing happened again until he was opening my pants. He stopped again. I just left the room because I was furious. I really wanted him and I knew he felt the same way... And I was really upset since he was the one seducing me.

Now we do not talk at all and it is really awkward between us. For him everything ''never happened'' and he is Ok with moving forward. I am not!

Any advice?

[townpartier56]

Well what i would do is sit down and talk with him, and explain how you feel; and ask him how he feels, tell him that you are technically not brothers, and so its not incest or anything bad.

[Fruit_Tart.]

yeah.^^ that you guys are like not even related and you really really love him... i would do that if i was in this situation.

[Tyler92]

already did that... As soon as I started talking about that topic, he kicked me out of his room. When I say something he always says there's nothing to talk about.

[Fruit_Tart.]

well, be firm and tough about it. look him in the eyes (meanly & caring) and tell him, "Hey! listen to me! i need to talk!" then maybe you could ask him why he did "things" to you. then tell him that if he didn't have feelings for you then he wouldn't have done it... or something like that. AND don't let him talk until you say wat you want so he can give his respect to you.

[Disconected]

if he tries to do it again tell him no, even if u want to. i think he's just playing with u so just don't let him

[Peace God]

Tell him to stop making moves on you if it's not going anywhere.
Also tell him that its really confusing when he does that.
You guys can either stop the sexual stuff and move on, become "closer" or stay in that awkward in between area.

[Tyler92]

Finally clarified that whole story and I can fortunately say: ''Case closed''. Thanks guys for all the good advice!

[Nickk XD]

Finally clarified that whole story and I can fortunately say: ''Case closed''. Thanks guys for all the good advice!

What was the resolution??

[Tyler92]

The problem was we never really talked about what happened. So he just came into my room and we talked about everything. We now are ready to move on as ''brothers'' and that's it. I am really glad we talked and are able to move on now.

[MacMilker]

congrats

was he cute btw? ahah (: hope your having fun

cheers