My dad....

[laugh-to-live]

So my parents are divorced and i am going back and forth between my mom and dad. My dad and I don't really have a relationship and lately what he is doing to my mom and older sister (nothing bad. just not trying to talk to my sis and being a jerk to my mom) is pissing me off. He complains how me and him don't have a relationship but whenever im at his house (mostly sunday and monday. but this usually happens on sunday) he just sleeps. and me, my brother, and sis all just do whatever. its not like we are a family, more like we are just friendly people who are living in the same house. Then i heard that how he is around me and our relatonship will affect what guys i like....i'm scared that he is making me desprete for a guy relationship because i dont have one with him. i don't want this....what should i do??

p.s. sorry if this makes no sense

[Maverick]

If I were you I would have a serious talk to him and explain how you feel. You should tell him that the reason you don't have a relationship is because he isn't trying hard enough. Try to suggest activities and things you can do together that can hopefully build back up a relationship.

Don't jump on his case which can get him defensive. Just talk to him and hopefully he will make an effort to be a better father. That is about all you can do. Just try to do things you both enjoy together more often.

[shikachunin]

Tell him that he isn't holding up his part of the relationship! You should talk to him (calmly) and explain that yoou can't have a good family relationship without both people doing their part. Maybe you should do some activities together (like Maverick said), like sports, a movie night, board games, shopping, a trip to a pool, a day trip, a friendly conversation about nothing in general, or anything else that you can think of!

(Sorry, this is one of my longer posts >_<)

[staying_alive]

Dude I'm in a similar situation, except I'm switching houses every day.

You need to talk to him, and if he doesn't change (like my dad) just appreciate him for what he likes to do. My dad was really into cars, so we work on cars together. We're both interested in money, so we look at stocks together. We both like computers and tech, so we talk about that kind of stuff. My dad can't afford a lot so activities are minimal, but we can make the most of it.

Now, the end of the optimism (if you can't take it, read above paragraph). My dad and I are so alike in principal that we don't get along. He wants to buy stuff, so do I, so he buys what he wants and rarely goes for the stuff I'm interested in. He hates cleaning, so he doesn't do it. Neither do I. Our house is a mess. He sits around on his computer the majority of the time. We have the same interests, but are only passionate about certain ones.

Don't get me wrong, we do bond. But it's few and far between. If you talk to your dad and he doesn't change, just talk to your mom about changing the custody agreement. He'll find out, and he'll change. Don't be too over the top, or he'll get annoying trying to get you to like him. That's what happened in my house and it definitely gets annoying.

Good luck, PM me if you need any help.