what should i do next

[maddii-may]

:(okay. were to start. last night about 11 we got a call from my auntie and uncle saying my cousin is at the police station and has been taken by social severcies. it looks like my cousin has calll them and told them something and my uncle has to be questiong my police tomorrow but my cousin has been today. she has been taken to a care home for the moment but it looks like it something to do with a boy. she told me things like this boy wanted to kill her parents and that she wasnt to go and see him and that she has planned the journy there. however this boy has been expelled from her school and has been in prison. so he mum and dad told her that she couldnt meet up with him. as she has been telling me qutie alot of things that no one else nos about apart from my mum and dad as i told them when they asked me if i knew anything. but i dont know if my info would be useful and if it is what should i do im not sure who to talk to. please help if you can as i am really worried and upset as my whole family is falling apart now.

thank you for your help.:(

[kiki776]

wow! y does she wanna c him so bad?

[maddii-may]

she says its 'love' but its not he is horrilble and dont no what too do ?

[Sapphire]

It's hard to tell from your post exactly why your cousin has been placed in care by social services. Do you know why?

If you know something, anything that could help your family then talk with your aunt and uncle about it. They will know what is and isn't relevant to the current situation. If what you know is relevant and your cousin has already told them - they'd tell the police. But she may not have confided in her parents - in which case you can help by talking with the police.

[maddii-may]

they dont actullay not why she has been put it to care all i no is that its something to do with that boiy and i cant tell them as they wont grsp what i am saying. she is an only child. so should i try and set up a qusetioning with the police ?

[Sapphire]

Why can't you tell them? What is it that they wouldn't be able to grasp?

[maddii-may]

well its really complicated me and cousin are 10 weeks apart and if i told them it would destroy mine and the familys relationship and some were along the line it would get turned around to me lieing and stuff.

[Sapphire]

If you can't tell them then what would the point be in going to anyone else (e.g. police) since it would then inevitably come out to the family?

[maddii-may]

no as i could do it confidentially ?

[Sapphire]

There is that, but I was thinking more along the lines of if it is useful to the police or social services and is acted upon by either of them then surely it is inevitable that they will find out.

[cherry_boi]

i would say at this point, it's your duty to help protect your cousin if you can, so if you have any information that will be of use i think you should come forward with it

it's not honorable to keep secrets if the information being withheld could keep someone from harm

you cousin will thank you someday, and even if she doesn't you can look back and be proud that you did all you can to help your family

[maddii-may]

but i wont seeher if she gets taken in to care ?

[Sapphire]

You should talk with the police but I don't see how you expect what you know to be of use and yet to simultaneously not become known by your aunt and uncle.

[maddii-may]

well i cant give the info with out them knowing that i gave it.

okay well today he was questions and the stuff she has said arent true and it has really effected me and i dont no what too do :(

[Sapphire]

Leave her to it.
If she is going to lie to you then you should just concentrate on soothing your own hurt and getting yourself back on track.
Let her get herself out of this mess that she has created.

It sounds harsh but you need to look after yourself.

[maddii-may]

well today it all got too much and in pe and at lunch i had a massive break down and i cried forr agess x im so worriedd

[Sapphire]

You can either talk with her about everything that's going on and see what you can do to help or you can trust that her parents, the police and social services are seeing to her sufficiently and soothe yourself.

They are your two options.
Make up your mind - we can't do it for you.

[maddii-may]

well i no she is lie and my uncle has had a mental break down but i cant have ant contact with my cousin and they r signing her over to ss.

[Sapphire]

Then there's nothing you can do then other than soothe your own hurt, look after yourself and carry on living your own life.