Fitting in?

[Virgin Pride]

Height has always been a problem for me. Right now I am 14 and 5"3. I exercise, get a lot of protein, meat, and drink milk, but I am not growing. My voice hasn't cracked yet either. People at school always make fun of me. I can't seem to find anyone to fit in with. I only have like 3 friends, and I am not even sure if they really are my friends. I make straight A's, but I am not exactly a nerd. I am not that bad looking and there are some girls that I think like me. I just can't find any good friends that will hang out with me. I seem to be able to relate to adults and smaller children better. I don't really like playing sports because everyone is much bigger than I am. I just wanted to know if there was anyone out there that was like me and has the same problems I do? Where should I look to start a real friendship? What am I doing wrong?

[Kaius]

I have one of the same problems. My growth was the first thing to happen, at 14. I've only just stopped growing at 6ft 4. My voice however, although its broken (at 14), its not fully done yet, so i get days where I sound quite young, and days where it'll go quite deep, but the cracking doesn't really stop. A lot of things didn't happen until i turned 15 though, like wet dreams, the hormones etc. You're still only 14, there's a chance you've not fully started puberty yet, Don't worry. If people are making fun of you because of this, the best thing you can do is just ignore them and walk away. Everyone changes at different stages, and the time it takes can also vary. It sounds like you've got a lot going for you in other areas. Relating to adults and younger children isn't a bad thing, in some cases it can also be a good thing. You aren't doing anything wrong, its just the immaturity of the people around you. As i said just ignore them and they'll get bored eventually, its happened to me a number of times.

[IDGAF]

Don't worry about a thing. I'm 16, and while I could be considered tall at 5ft 10, my voice has yet to change (people still call me "mam" on the phone). I have been made fun of alot because of my voice, and even been called gay because if it, even tho um not.
However, I never let it bother me, I ignored the jokes, and I acted like myself, and while I'm certainly no the most popular kid in my school, I have enoght good friends who know me for who I am and not what I sound like.
My advice: keep your head up, don't be intimidated, ignore negative comments, and stay true to who u are, an everything will fall into place

[Brayden]

I have the same problem more or less. I make good grades, I'm not wholly unattractive, I'm somewhat athletic but not really into sports, etc... I'm a normal person. But when people first meet you they're not going to know all of that, they're going to judge you based on their first perception of you because that's all they have to go on. If you act like you don't want to be apart of something, or don't make yourself approachable, no one is going to want to develop a friendship or a relationship with you. You can't sit around and wait for people to just come to you wanting to be friends, you have to go out and find them.

Does your school have any clubs that you'd be interested in joining? Anything you can do outside of school? Do you have a hobby, something you can do with other people?

About the bullying, I'm assuming that it has something to do with your size, and the fact that your voice hasn't cracked, whatever. High school kids can be vicious, but you shouldn't let it bother you. You're short? Not a huge deal, you can't reach things off of really high shelves, how very crippling. Your voice hasn't cracked yet? It will, and it will be embarrassing as fuck while it's changing, but it will definitely happen.

I don't think you're doing anything wrong, you said yourself that you have three friends. How many more do you need? Spend time with them, invite them over to do something. Don't isolate yourself, it will only make you feel worse.

[Lovin Life]

Dude, I know exactly how you feel. I had a similar problem. Just let you body run its natural course and don't worry about it. You are not doing anything wrong. I would recommend that, like posted earlier, try to find some clubs to join. Thats how I made most of my friends.

[autolycus96]

Yeah my voice hasn't broken either...and yes sometimes i get teased and stuff for that and stuff like that.