What should I do?

[Airbourne]

Hi all,
Just wondering what I should do. Bare in mind that I'm writing most of this as it comes to mind, so its gonna sound a bit crazy and all over the place. Okay, so here goes anyway. Appologies upfront for the essay! :P

Last year at college, I met a girl who was in the year above me. The instant I saw her I fell for her. It was like I already knew her. I'm sure you know what I mean when I say that you've always had this image of your perfect partener in your head? Well it was like she was that person. Only thing was she already had a boyfriend, whom she was with up until recently. She has left now for uni., althou she's still only about 20 minutes down the road. She's now split up with this boyfriend however. Only trouble is I've not scene her in like nearly 6 months. I speak to her whenever I get the odd chance to online, e.g. facebook, but she's not online all that often.

Now because I was stupid and shy, I never really got to know her that well when she was still at college. What I'm wondering is whether or not this is even worth me persuing anymore. I mean she's intelligent, friendly, beautiful and pretty much as perfect a person as I have ever met. But to her I'm sure I'm just some guy from her old school/college who she vaguely knew and spoke to a few times. So I'm not really going to get very far speaking to her when she's on facebook, which is about twice a month?

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[Airbourne]

Nobody?

[Art_dude]

"Now because I was stupid and shy, I never really got to know her that well when she was still at college. What I'm wondering is whether or not this is even worth me persuing anymore. I mean she's intelligent, friendly, beautiful and pretty much as perfect a person as I have ever met."

Is it worth pursuing? I don't really know. Yes it has been a long time, but if you find the chance to see her in person, try pursuing it and gauge her reaction. If you really like her that much and she seems to like you back, it might be worth your while.

"But to her I'm sure I'm just some guy from her old school/college who she vaguely knew and spoke to a few times. So I'm not really going to get very far speaking to her when she's on facebook, which is about twice a month?"

... wait a sec... you've only spoken to her in PERSON a few times? I figured you two knew each other on a friendly basis. So she's basically an acquaintance? Because that changes things. To me that can work against you, but others might say it gives you a clean slate. I don't understand how you can be that enamored with her if you barely know her, but that's your own business. I wouldn't pursue it but it's your life. Try meeting up with her at a place you know she hangs out like a local cafe or something.

As for the other thing... Look, I've been through a rough year.. suffice to say that I became obsessed with Kristen Stewart and Taylor Lautner. Not in a stalker way (in fact I barely know anything about their lives unlike those hardcore fans that know their blood type) but more in a just "look at tabloid pictures and fantasize about what an amazing life they both have" kind of way. It's completely normal to escape the daily routine by indulging in some fantasy. In fact it's healthy sometimes, but just make sure it doesn't get out of hand. I think you know your limits, I wouldn't be worried. Hope this helps!

[Airbourne]

[I]... wait a sec... you've only spoken to her in PERSON a few times? I figured you two knew each other on a friendly basis. So she's basically an acquaintance? Because that changes things. To me that can work against you, but others might say it gives you a clean slate. I don't understand how you can be that enamored with her if you barely know her, but that's your own business. I wouldn't pursue it but it's your life. Try meeting up with her at a place you know she hangs out like a local cafe or something.

Sorry for the late reply!

Yes, I've only spoken to her a few times, but those few times were enough. There was something there, that I can't really place my finger on.

If I'm being honest, I felt that way from the very first moment that I layed eyes on her. I know that it sounds strange, and most people are going to think that I probably just felt a strong physical attraction or something, but it wasn't like that. There was more too it than that. There was just something instinctive - I just knew when I saw her.


As for the other things I was going on about, too say the least I was rather confused and tired when I wrote it, probably due to stress and lack of sleep, due to the sheer ammount of work that I've been doing for college :P
(There was a two week period where I was getting like 2 hours sleep for pretty much every night!)

[ILOVEYOU]

i think, you should wait, if you feel you cant get her, then you cant, you gotta be confident first, that is the key, if you believe in yourself, then you wont have any problem with her decision, or who she's gonna decide to be with.. you know. so keep talking to her, and as it seems to be you believe in Love at first sight, there's a movie tag line i never forget, "if you believe in love at first sight, you'll never stop looking", so as i, i used to love people at the first sight, as i still do, like as long as i've found out that i dont have the strength and i'm not confident enough to go and get her at the first time i'm seeing her , i simply forget about her and keep my way.. and god knows how many girls i see along my way and the same situation, on and on. Confidence is the key, have the courage to tell her that you like her, she will like it, they do most of time. and.. Never stop looking, maybe she's not worth it.. huh? :P.. Good Luck!