he wont touch me..

[ArtistInNeed]

lately me and my bf havent been having sex and i dont understand what is going on..its making me feel so ugly and awful. its depressing me so bad. ive been fine up until now. idk wat to do...it makes me feel so unloved. could he be cheating? or just uninterested in me? he says hes not for both, but if hes not having sex with me then what could it be? im so confused. im depressed all the time now and its killing me. i dont want to fall back into my depression. ive come so far with it...

[Kaius]

The problem may not be you. If its come on suddenly you might want to sit down and talk with him about anything that may be wrong at the moment. Maybe there's a reason for it. Has there been any breakdown in other areas? Communication, Attention etc. He may just not be in the mood for it. Try not to worry, as i said it may not be you at all.

[Katrina]

If I could talk to your boyfriend, some of the first things I'd ask about are whether he's changed anything in the last few months.
-- Any specific changes in diet and/or nutrition?
-- Any changes (less or more) in the amount of exercise he's getting?
-- Any new medications he's taking, or vitamins or supplements?
-- Anything happening at work or school that is worrying him? I know you said that you don't think there's anything specific on his mind, but if this is a really busy time for him -- and if he's both working and attending school -- it might be a factor.
The hormone testosterone has everything to do with a man's sex drive, just like our hormones have so much to do with our own sex drive. Hormones fluctuate in both men and women. And while it's normal to have much more sex at the beginning of a relationship than later, it does seem like a fairly drastic change in the last few months.
Has anything changed in the dynamic of your relationship? Meaning, is one of you more serious about the relationship than the other? Or someone's living arrangement has changed? Or someone's schedule has changed? Is he still sleeping well at night?
So often, what we think is medical or psychological has an actual base in our diet, our nutrition, our sleep, our work, our play, and our level of exercise. The first thing I'd ask is if any of those changed significantly recently.
Here's a question I hate to ask, but I will: Are you very sure that he still feels the same way about the relationship that he used to?
And about how old is he?
Please see if you can get back with some answers to these questions and we'll see if we can find anything that might help.

[Brayden]

Katrina pretty much covered all of the physiological things that may be contributing to your boyfriends decreased sex drive. If he has started a new medication, the ones to look out for that will definitely cause a decrease in sex drive:

- most anti-depressants
- beta blockers
- medications for high blood pressure

Otherwise, I feel that Katrina covered everything. Have you talked to him at all about what's going on? A lot of relationships fail due to a lack of communication, even if there isn't a real issue.

Also, hormones during your teenage years are, lyke, out of whack. His sex drive could be decreased simply because he doesn't feel as horny as he used to. It doesn't say anything about you, just the normal ups and downs guys experience when going through puberty. And it's not only a puberty thing, if you've been dating for a long time, sex may not be the first thing on his mind when he see's you. He may be more interested in being with you than being inside you, in which case you should be flattered.

If you genuinely think that you need more sex in your relationship, then you should definitely be talking to him about it, not wasting your time getting (mostly) irrelevant opinions on an online forum. He'll either agree with you, and perform more; or he'll at least give you an explanation as to what's going wrong. And if it does turn out to be a lack of interest, it's a good cue that you need to go ahead and move on. If he can't, or is unwilling to satisfy your wants and needs, you should find someone who is.

[ArtistInNeed]

me and him talk all the time if theres a problem. ive already sat him down and seriously talked to him if anything was going on. he doesnt know whats wrong and neither do i :( school isnt stressing him, and work is ok. i just dont know..hes already cleared that he hasnt changed his feelings about me, weve been together for 3 years now. i swear its just me..

[Brayden]

Perhaps you're growing apart? Or the relationship isn't as exciting anymore, it's just part of the status quo. Three years is a long time go

[ArtistInNeed]

it doesnt feel like its not exciting..

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Sometimes when people have been together for a few years, things get rocky in the bedroom, I have heard this with all my friends that have been in long term relationships.
Maybe you need to spice things up? Try things you have no before? Get a little wild :P

Or it could just be s time in his life.
A few months ago my boyfriend was rejecting sex with me a lot, and it was very confusing, but after a month or two things just changed back.

How long has this been a problem?
Don't stress yourself out too much.

[ArtistInNeed]

its only been a few weeks. the other day we had sex and it was pretty spontaneous so were ok now, not perfect, but better :)