Question for all.

[Arantor]

Okay well there's this girl that I really like. I've been getting closer to her the last little while, theres only one little problem-she has a boyfriend. Often, it seems im with her alot more than him.

But none the less, she has a boyfriend. I talk to her at school, we text, i hang out with her outside of school and we've become very close. Yet, she hasn't let go of her boyfriend.

So is guess my questions are aimed seperatly:

BOYS: What would you do in this situation?

GIRLS: What would you want a guy to do in this situation, or what do you think I should do?

[Silent]

Thats a tough one...I personally would talk to the girl about the relationship and go from there really.

[cherry_boi]

she probly either see's u has a good friend and has no interest in dating you

or

is unhappy with her current bf and looking to make you his replacement

if she talks about her bf fondly, often and romantically then probly see's u as a friend

if she is always bashing her bf, doubting him or doesn't talk about him at all then she's probly ready to move on

so take the info she's giving u and make a choice....maybe start flirting with her; get her used to seeing you in a romantic sense, see how she reacts and go from there

[Aspiringanonymous]

General Puberty :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Kitty Purry]

I would just keep doing what your Doing, because if you make a move it could resul. In her hating you, and there's a chance of her boyfriend finding out and who knows what he will do, :P you could just talk to her about her and he boyfriends relationship and see what her plans are :p who knows maybe she won't want to be with him any more :p hope I helped :p

[Katrina]

My guess is that she probably likes you as a friend.
Has she ever talked to you about her BF?
As Gosaints has said keep doing what you are doing now.

[Arantor]

yeah, she talks about him. Sometimes she says little ncie things, and sometimes shes bashing him. More bashing though..

[Brayden]

It's possible that she doesn't view you romantically, but rather as a friend. When I was dating I still spent way more time with my lads then with my girlfriend. It wasn't because I didn't care about her on anything, it was just that I enjoyed the relationship I did have with my guys.

If she is spending way, (and by way, I mean loads more time) with you then her boyfriend, then perhaps you could make a move. She could be nervous about whether or not your interested. I think you should make it clear to her how you feel about her and see what she has to say.

[ErykaInspire.]

It seems to me like she's in the same situation as me. Girls are often TOO caring. We attach ourselves to a guy (boyfriend) then after awhile, lose interest. Some girls can't break up with the guy because they care too much about them.
I have a few guy friends I hang out with, one of them I like, but I won't date him (Long story. Not relevant to this situation :P). She possibly likes you, all you can do is continue to be her friend and take into consideration quite a few things:

-Does she feel the same way about you?
-Is she actually happy with her boyfriend?
-Would you be able to risk the friendship for a relationship?
-You'd have to give her time before she jumps into another relationship when/if her and her boyfriend break up.

Support her with everything she does, girls don't like selfish guys, sometimes they just want a friend they can count on and trust.

Best of luck, Message me if you need anything.

x Eryka

[Hatsune Miku]

I'm in the exact situation. So I can't provide an answer, but answers from others would really help me too. :P
( Only difference is she told me she likes me too )

[Arantor]

Thank you, Inspiration.

That was by far the most helpful post so far. I'll post some more information later on.

[ErykaInspire.]

You're welcome. Some more information would be quite helpful, though.

[pixie1234]

think about how strong is their relationship? if its not that strong they could split soon. in which case give her time to get over it, and then talk to her.

give her time though. when you just finished a relationship and a guy tells you how he feels it can become quite daunting.

good luck and i hope you get her :) xx

[pageplant77]

Keep playing your cards right and maybe she'll come around to you.