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[Asylum]

i dont' know why... but i have the urge again.... i don't want to cut, but i do at the same time... i can't let this take contrl of me... i need to take contorl of it.... any tips?

[Kaius]

Well, ripping pieces of paper up into squares helps me when i have urges. it keeps my mind away from it, and im still doing something with my hands. Theres also the elastic band trick. Put one on your wrist and snap it every time you get a bad urge. Hope this helps, Don't give in. You're strong enough to beat it.

[Asylum]

Thank you Kaius, I actually got distracted :) i was busy uploading and editing pics nd listnig to Sedar Ortac the urge went away :)

[BuryYourFlame]

Distraction is often a good means of avoiding cutting, but it is also important you keep trying to eliminate the root of the problem. Really, the only way of doing this is through counselling etc.

[Asylum]

very true Ghost, i will seek help if i find it an ongong problem, i've ben a self harmer fo 7years the help i got did't work, i found myself wanting to stop nd getting distracted help more, and talking to people on this ste helped a lot, gave me that extra edege nt to give up..to keep tryin and i realy cn't thnk the people on this site enough, i've gone from every day, to an urge urge every few weeks, and sometimes i can totally avoid the urge, other time i've fallen but i havne't given up, andi i'm not planning on it
like i know how to avoid... reason why i posted was to stop an urge, a psychologst can't help me because that person didn't go through it... thye only have their opinion that its wrong and ths shouldn't be done, yes true, but not the full comperhensio of why and etc. which is why this site has helped me mroe, real people real experience real how thye got ovr it... no b.s. i know one day i won't want to do it anymroe, and i'll be fine... its a struggle, espeically doing i without help, but i quit on my own before my great grandmothers death brought me back into it this year, but i was off it for a few months b4... i did it then i can do it now. i can't ook for elp now because of parents... they made fun of me and would yell at me alot for askign for help and it was a bad experience, but if things get worse, in a year i'll be off to college and i'll maek sure to get help onc im away, i'm serious this isn't just a pathetic excuse on not to get help... i asked... i got it... got hell for it... i found it easier ot stop on my own... hard, but easy, i've come alogn way..

[georgiamay]

distract yourself in whatever way you can. that's the only advice i can give you really. the elastic band trick, like desolation said is a really good way of dealing with urges. well done though for getting so far already. :)
maybe whenever you get an urge, write it all down. write it in whatever way you want, like a poem or like you were writing a diary or something. hope i helped :)

[Asylum]

thank you georgia :)