Made fun of for girlyness

[TheFame]

Hi im 14 and apparently girls think of me as the hottest guy in the class? Only one problem..i grew up around girls so im kinda girly and i get made fin of and peoples first opinion of me is "gay". Ofcorse that changes over time. Its really making me sad so..


GIVE me some TIPS to not appear so "gay"

And please i know how truthfull you guys are with telling me just be yourself.
But for my own selfesteem, please just give me some advice?

Sorry for seeming so cocky in my original post. I was just trying to give you all the details about me so the advice can be enhanced.

Thank you. :)

[Hatsune Miku]

Just be yourself. No need to change just because some people are making fun of you. Just ignore them, if you show them that it bothers you they'll just continue to do it.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Grow a beard.

[TheFame]

No i act all the right ways to get them to stop

its more on first impressions now

[Peace God]

trust me ppl will like u for who u are...just be nice
i think the mistake a lot of ppl make is becoming defensive and feeling everyone is out to get them
from experience i know that some ppl dont like the more "feminine" boys(no offense) because they can sometimes come off as loud and stuck up
Just Be Yourself

and it helps a lot if you show that u dnt let that shit get to u

[emt.Cam]

You're yourself, not anyone else. Don't change just to get a girl in your class to like you. You seem a little cocky as well, being cocky is not manly, just being a dink. Again, act yourself and the time will come.

[Kitty Purry]

I really reccomend you to be yourself but here's how to act "manly"


1- I LOVE gaga so much but don't talk about her or any other music artists like that :P

2- don't say things like- omg, WTF, omfg, stuff like that

3- don't let your wrists hang

4- I think that's it idk tho

but really it's best to just be yourself, I only posted this because you asked for it, :P

[Nelson]

I agree with Gosaints, But im a bad example, i do all the above.

[Katrina]

Well I guess you should not take them seriously and never think twice about it.
Just be normal and leave it like it is (you should be satisfied about yourself)
and believe me when its time you will b ready for it and you will show people your steel.

[Sage]

Hi im 14 and the hottest guy in the class.
That's why people hate you.

Only one problem..i grew up around girls so im kinda girly
I grew up around a lot of things and I'm not any of them. At the end of the day, you're still consciously choosing everything you do.

Give me some tips to act MANLY and hot.
The most "manly" guys in highschool are typically major douchebags. I'm not giving you advice on how to become a stereotype.

[Jess]

ignore them. I had a friend when I was in elementary school who was almost like you - hanged around mostly girls

just ignore them, be yourself :)

[Scarface]

I really reccomend you to be yourself but here's how to act "manly"


1- I LOVE gaga so much but don't talk about her or any other music artists like that :P

2- don't say things like- omg, WTF, omfg, stuff like that

3- don't let your wrists hang

4- I think that's it idk tho

but really it's best to just be yourself, I only posted this because you asked for it, :P

Sorry guilty as charged of all those girlfriend Jk I'm actually gay and people don't realize it until i tell them. Just be yourself because if some people don't like it just be like "tough" move on and make friends who don't judge.

[TheFame]

That's why people hate you.


I grew up around a lot of things and I'm not any of them. At the end of the day, you're still consciously choosing everything you do.


The most "manly" guys in highschool are typically major douchebags. I'm not giving you advice on how to become a stereotype.


ACTUALLY PEOPLE LOVE ME. Im only cocky on this fourm to state facts quickly. IM NOT LIKE THAT IN REAL LIFE THOUGH :P

[Peace God]

ACTUALLY PEOPLE LOVE ME.
then what r u concerned about?
Im only cocky on this fourm to state facts quickly.
:what::what::what::what:
huh?

[TheFame]

I really reccomend you to be yourself but here's how to act "manly"


1- I LOVE gaga so much but don't talk about her or any other music artists like that :P

2- don't say things like- omg, WTF, omfg, stuff like that

3- don't let your wrists hang

4- I think that's it idk tho

but really it's best to just be yourself, I only posted this because you asked for it, :P

Thanks i think your the only one so far who has actually given me tips :)

[staying_alive]

Well to be honest, you have to get guys to respect you. I've had the same situation recently (although not necessarily the hottest guy stuff, but similar) and i've started sitting with guys at lunch, hanging out with guys outside of school, etc. Watch some ESPN, get some ladies, have a good time.

Regarding the ESPN, I used to hate it. Never watched it. But now I do because it gives me something to talk about with guys and it's actually partially interesting.

These people saying "people will accept you for who you are" are not correct. Maybe in a dream world this happens, but it won't happen here and i know you don't believe it. Teens love to criticize and judge people.

Be calm, cool, and collected. Don't stand out and people won't judge you as much.

P.S. I was unsure of putting this in my post, but here goes. If you're in high school, and you're REALLY desperate, hook up with someone. Not sure if I'm allowed to say that on the forum, but it's what will really get you respect among the guy population. Plus it gives you something to talk about.

[Shadowhunter]

Honestly I know everyone is telling you this but you should be yourself because honestly these people that do that to you are in need of a few maturity lessons. High School is filled with misjudgments, mockery , and stereotypes. You cant act differently around people to get there approval and to get a girl because that would be making them like you for who your not.
Basically Im trying to say just be yourself people seem to like you for who you are not for who you could be and you should be fine with that as for the gay impression thing when people bring it up just seem unaffected about it cause honestly thats just high school for you once your out most of this stuff will go away people will be more mature.

[TheFame]

Thank you guys so much for helping :)

I finally asked one of my friends why she thought i was gay when she met me. it was because i was a little too "Enthusiastic". Well yeah as much as i would want to be myself (All happy and jumpy or "gay" [Pun intended] ) i cant take it anymore. Im gonna be plain from now on. That should do it.

Thanks again for the advice you guys :)

[Peace God]

Im gonna be plain from now on.
alright then, have fun with that...oh:scratchchin:... wait, you cant