Re: Bullying

[Jackel]

Ok, I'd like to say something.

I get bullied. I found this webpage to TALK about it. So, I'm a bit of a goth. I do suffer from depression. All my life I've been bullied, 'it just feels like everyone can see a great big 'LOSER' tattoo on my forehead', you know what I mean?

Ok, there's this one kid, 'Justin'. He's a f*g! He mocks me, he steals, he get other people to do mean things to me!~ (eg: Steals my hat, rub it in dirt, rub their... on it, pin it on walls, hit me, call me rascist when they are being rascist at that time, mock my work, break my stuff, threaten to kill me, threaten my mother, call my mother a whore and such, call me an 'Emo adopted freak' or some other mean name, it's just not right).

I know it's life for there to be bullies and bullied, but its jsut not fair. I am nice, I give freely, I don't fight, I don't patronize, I treat everyone fairly!
Sure, I'll admit im a bit arrogant, a bit stupid, annoying and perverted at times. :(
BUt still: they have NO right to mock me, accuse me of sick, sexual attractions and activities, and most certainly mock my family!

I need to think of a solution. I need to think of a Counteraction! Punching them in the face might work, but then again I may get the sh*t beat out of me. Talking with them hasn't worked. Telling a teacher hasn't worked. Ignoring them hasn't worked. It feels like I'm hitting an invisible barrier! >:(

So...I need your helps. I need your ideas. Cuz they jsut don't like me and I am at my wits patience. Plz help me,

Jack

[Pirate]

This is really tricky, because all the obvious solutions people will come out with haven't worked.
The best way to do it, is to act really nonchalant about it. Not ignoring it like it's not there, but like it's a tiny fly of irritation on the honey jar that is your life. (Great metaphor eh ;) )
Get your pals around you, surely they know what's happening. Change habits if it means you won't see them as much - like the route you walk home or whatever.

Does that sound helpful? x

[nick]

First of all I just want to say how sorry I am that you have to put up with shit like that. Sadly the world is full of arseholes and it sounds like you've got some good examples right there.

Turning to violence is not a good answer, it will just bring trouble back onto you and, as you say, you may end up just getting beaten up as a result. Don't lower yourself to that level.

You've kept your location secret. Here in the UK every school should take bullying very seriously. You've tried speaking to a teacher, you say that didnt work. Dont leave it at that, take it to your year head or the head teacher. Get your parents to come in and make a complaint. The school have a duty to take action.

[Inconvenience]

i unrstand what ui're goin through, but u know what? it's all ur fault. u shouldn't let him humble u from the very start. once people find u weak, they keep on pushin ;) still it's not too late :) haven't u got friends? be close to friends and if once he decides to abuse u u'll all together kick out his ass ;) that's the only solution. i'd bit em up with my own hand if i were there, but i think we live too far for that :)


secondly how can u let anybody insult ur family and especially ur mother? aren't u a man? i'd kill him ;) be a man , not some mamma's darlin ;)

and btw, don't u get upset, i'm sayin it all friendly, for ur own good ;)

[Sith Lord 13]

First thing to remember is that it will get better. Every day is one day closer to graduation and never having to deal with them again.

Now, for getting through tomorrow, my suggestion is to let them know you view them as annoyances, nothing more. Try a few small comebacks when they're bothering you. My personal favorite when I was younger was "At least my highest job hopes don't include the phrase 'Would you like fries with that'".

Life is hard. If you ever need someone to talk to about these kids, feel free to contact me.

[Hyper]

All of the (insert censored slur here) on this site who have actually no idea what their talking about will disagree with me

But if nagging to your teacher, school principle, them talking to the parents etc has failed and the bullying is truly abusive mentally & physically fighting back is the only thing to do

Everything not physical you try your best to not let it get to you, everything that is physical you throw back at them - yes that may lead to more physical violence but in the end if you don't defend yourself every prick will see you as a fun target and if you have a computer and still bother going to school it's likely a bunch of f****ts who need 4 friends to slap one guy like a girl, so fighting back should work and it's always the right thing to do.

As for stuff like changing schools, ''ignore it'' etc etc.. Their mostly a load of shit. If you change from a bigger school to a small school things might MAYBE improve, but usually the school change doesn't change anything unless there is a major difference between how the schools are ran and what kind of parents the schools attract...

[Wish]

I don't agree that this is all your fault, honestly that isn't true. It isn't your fault that they began picking on you and have continued to do so. I am not quite sure of a strategy to fight back. How long has it been going on for? I don't necessarily agree with violence but that might be because I am more of a passive person, it might help the situation but it might work in the completely opposite way and you could end up in trouble yourself.

You are better than all these bullies, don't give them the satisfaction of letting them see they have got to you. Okay, I'm not saying ignore them, just rise above it. Let your friends stick up for you if they see what's happening. Safety in numbers and all that.

[wavey]

i understand how you are... i feel the same.

unfortunitly the world is full of aresholes, ive heard that many a time. it is. but there is a selection of people, like us, and our friends. that are not. people who do drugs, and fuck around, be a dick head and things like that, THREATEN out of all things... gah, who gives a fuck, they say, take some weed, it calms you down. does it fuck. i hope they all choke on their Weed and fucking die.


Bastard bullys. i say, it pisses me right off when people have issues and cant get help.. or are afraid to because of the issues that could come about it.

Why cant people listen to sense and just stop bullying?

[Lifeguard18]

first of all, i am sorry for what you are going through. the people who are responding to this are giving you the bad side of taking care of this. you do not fight back in any kind of way. next, you dont have to "be a man." being a man has NOTHING to do with protecting yourself. that is an expression guys use to make you do things. if someone says be a man, dont listen to them. if your parents and teachers are not listening, you have the right to call up somebody who will do something about it. you know you could get the police involved. if they beat you up and your parents and the school (teachers, principals) and they dont do shit about it, you call the police. you call a counselor. talk to your guidence counselor. and people on here are saying smoke weed. DOING DRUGS DOES NOT HELP IN ANY WAY WHATSOEVER ! they are just trolling the site and causing arguments for no reason. do not use drugs. you talk to the bully but DO NOT USE "YOU MESSAGES." USE "I MESSAGES."

Ex: "I feel _______ because you bully and harass me all the time. I am getting tired of it because _______. I want this to stop. I think this has gone too far enough already and I am at the point where I can't take you bullying anymore. I just want you to leave me alone."

That is just an example. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THESE SITES FOR I-MESSAGES:
( http://www.teachablemoment.org/elementary/imessages.html )
( http://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/I-messages/)

DO NOT stoop to the bullys level where you beat him up or whatever. that DOES NOT solve anything. and DOES NOT PROVE you are tougher. it may take your anger out, but it will get you into a lot of trouble.

recommend "challenge day," google it i mean it too, to your school and see what they think about it. i have experienced it and it changed me and other people in so many ways possible.

you are better than the bully. you are the nice person, not them

[Nickk XD]

We did a challenge day at my school too, it was great.

I strongly recommend it. http://challengeday.org

Personally, I don't think it changes the world nor does it change everybody and not everyone can attend it...so I still think it isn't too effective.





recommend "challenge day," google it i mean it too, to your school and see what they think about it. i have experienced it and it changed me and other people in so many ways possible.

[Moai]

I know how you feel man....I was bullied like crap in 7th grade. I'm glad it passed though. I suggest making a lot of friends, and trust me the more popular you are, the less you will get bullied.

[Sordid Saint]

The best thing to do is to not listen to them. I used to get bullied a lot a couple years back. Last year I started boxing and went to the gym almost every day. I don't get messed with now :)... But some people still do pick on me, and I'm not proud about it but I have gotten in a few fights lately, but most of the time I just ignore it.