is this considered abuse?

[love_linds]

my boyfriend can be very sarcastic. and sometimes he says some things that he shouldnt. and wen he does i wack him. lik, not hard and its not out of anger persay its more of a 'dont-say-that' kind of hit. and smoetimes i hit a little too hard. ive been trying to work on it and im doing better. but it just still kills me wondering if i am abusive or not.
it doesnt sound lik much but i do it a lot. and i feel horrible. sometimes he jokes around saying "one in three teens are in an abusive relationship" and then that gets me really upset. ive even cried because im afraid its true. and thats wen he says im not abusive.
so do you thik im abusive...?
:confused:

[Blood]

Mildly abusive, maybe.

[Mattasaur94]

Well, it's a matter of perspective.
I personally don't think it's abusive, your just keeping him in line.
Abuse can come down to a long list of things, but, it also comes down to the severity of the matter and who's involved.
Whether or not it's labelled as abusive should be on how he feels towards it, generally, seeing as it's "more of a "...dont-say-that' kind of hit..." then I can't imagine if it's too hard.
If you worried that your being abusive, then try and stop slapping him.
You slapping him and him "saying things he shouldn't" can be seen as relatively, and mildly, abusive. I wouldn't get too hung up on it. Just try and fix it. (:

[scuba steve]

no your not abusing him, if you where he'd be like "wha!" or act a little shocked, when he's saying the stuff about 1 in 3 teenagers are in an abusicve relationship that to me just sounds like he's taking the piss and there's a good chance that he believes when your hitting him your just fooling around.

[SmileyGirl]

no i dont think ur abusive just maybe ease up a little

[CuriousDestruction]

it is technically a form of abuse. but because you know that, it is hard to fault you. if he is not okay with the fact that you hit him sometimes, you should ease up. if he is okay with it, don't worry too much. just don't hit any harder.

[Omgthatsme]

I don't think it is.

[Asylum]

maybe... i think it might be... hittig is a form of abuse.... however you are keeping him in line... and well... i'm not quite sure really... just dont hit hard...

[INFERNO]

It would be abuse if he does not want nor like to be hit and if you're invading his space. By like to be hit, I mean both if he's masochistic or if he can simply shrug off a hit. However, if he complains and if you injure him in your hitting, then technically he could take you to court or have you arrested for abuse or assault. Alternatively, others could report you or be concerned if they see injuries on him, if the degree of which you're hitting is inappropriate for the context, the frequency and duration of the hitting, etc... . I suggest you do ease up on the hitting though because if you go into another relationship and do this, the person may not be as kind.

[Sith Lord 13]

It is not abuse between two consenting people. If he has a real problem with it, and you don't stop, then it is abuse. The way you describe it, he is making a joke about it and he doesn't seem to have a problem with it. My suggestion: sit down with him and ask him point blank if it really bothers him or if hes just being funny. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then there is no problem.

[piggy-wiggy]

i dont think it is, cause your just keeping him in line, as previously mentioned.. :)
its only playful, im sure he knows that, and hes just trying to twist your arm with statistics.. :)

[Hollywood]

that dosent sound like abuse, as long as you aren't hitting him or anything. if its just twisting his arm, im sure he understands.

[MaliciousBunface]

It's not really abuse, it depends on how you look at it..your hitting him cuz he said something that he shouldn't have...just try not hit as hard (:

[Death]

I'm not sure if I'd call it abuse, maybe just mildly, or not at all. Regardless, I'd still not do it if he's only joking since he probably doesn't like it and decide not to be your boyfriend.

[BUENA]

I wouldn't call it abusive. But don't him really hard. Plus he could be stronger and could have stop you from smacking him. This tells me that HE LETS you hit him.

The best example I can give you is when the fictional character Allie hits Noah in the film The Notebook


hope this helps

[1_21Guns]

You just said yourself, he's sarcastic.
Therefore he clearly doesnt mean the remarks he makes about the "abuse".
The remarks are clearly hurting you though, does he know that?
I don't think your being abusive, I think your just trying to stop him saying whatever he said to provoke you to hit him.

[Scarface]

There are different ways of handling situations like these. Hitting is not always the best way to go about it, because it sometimes sends the wrong message. I would try having a sit down and tell him that some of the things he says hurt you and you would prefer if he would refrain from speaking like that. I wouldn't say your abusive, but i think you may be taking it a bit too far IMO. I hope this helps