Girl with Boyfriend

[Maxxy]

Okay, I met this girl after weeks ago who I use to know years ago and we were friends but lost contact. Anyway, Over the last few weeks we've been talking non-stop and become good friends, and now there is some chemistry between us.
There's one little problem, she has a boyfriend.

However, she has already told me that the two of them have been having problems for a few months but she's scared of being single again and alone so she's staying with him. She has said that she'll end it eventually but she's scared of being alone.

The thing is that I don't want to do anything while she's got a boyfriend, but she wants to find someone before she leaves her boyfriend.

I really want to be with her but dont want to cause a break up, but she has said that she's with him so she isn't single. She's worried that she may end it with him, then it won't work out with me and she'll be single, but everything is a gamble anyway.

I have never felt this way about anyone before. Should I just move on or wait to see what happens, or help her to make the right choice? It's complicated

[Mattasaur94]

Hang in there,
Your her friend, right?
Be there for her, tell her that being single isn't as crap as it seems, your single right?
;) Drop hints to her that if she were to break up with her boyfriend, she doesn't have to be single, but she doesn't have to go straight into a meaningless relationship with someone in fear of being single.

Talk to her, if you love her, or feel close to her, if you feel like a completely different person, a happier person, when your around her, don't walk away.
Feelings like this aren't something you can dismiss easily.
Hang in there, talk to her, hang out with her, don't talk all the time about relationships with her, use your body language to show that you care, that you'll be there for her when the world turns upside down.
Body language makes upm for 80% of our communication, we are animals. (:

She'll "come to her senses", and hey, if she doesn't, then just be there for her, keep talking to her, don't give up hope if when she breaks up with her boyfriend and finds some other random, as you've pointed out, it'd be relatively careless on her behalf and out of fear.

[Paladino]

I had the same problem once, I really started to talk to this girl and I liked her alot and she had a boyfriend and theres was problems, and she REALLY didnt want to break up with him, but she liked me. He eventually dumped her and I ended up going out with her, but it didn't work out at all my friend. She was sending him bebo messages and texts saying she still loved him so I broke up with her and ever since then shes been going to his house and having sex and stuff, but Im over her now.

Your best bet is that, do what you feel is right for you, you may get hurt, you may not.

[Maxxy]

Thanks guys, but little did I know that as I was writing this post she was breaking up with her boyfriend, because she had fallen out of love with him and wanted to officially part ways.
So that was a boost, but we have decided we won't rush into anything but spend the next few weeks just hanging out and just having fun and we'll see where it goes. She said she has hopes about us, but we want to do this the right way.
Hopefully everything works out, but it's a risk that we're taking, as love is always a gamble. And hopefully her ex isn't one of those psyco exs so we can forget about all emotional baggage.

Let's just see where all this goes...

[IanMilo]

good for you :)