I actually have a question :O.... for guys mostly.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Okay so I don't need advice, I know my own game too well for that.

Just a question.

If you get a girlfriend, and you know and realize she's the flirting type.
would you mind if she flirts (unconsciously with other guys), or would you expect her to change that part of her for your sake.

and is that partially insecurity on your own part?

[Dreaming Cannibal]

No, and yes ^_^

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

It frankly wouldn't bother me, as long as it didn't get to serious. Like keep it at words, but if it got to touchy I'd get annoyed fast.

[Kahn]

I would expect her to not do it for my sake. I would get uncomfortable if she started flirting with another guy in front of me.

I know it's insecurity. And I admit it.

[IanMilo]

I don't think it a big deal, not like you are going and being slutty and sexing up every guy you meet

and its not like you wont try to stop doing it

[AllThatIsLeft]

Yeah, I don't mean anything sexual or intentional.

[IanMilo]

then he should be understanding, im sure it will be akward and difficult for him at first, but after he gets used to it he wont really care. And chances are he too flirts unknowingly

[staying_alive]

I'd like to say I wouldn't get annoyed but I definitely would. I guess if it's kept to talking i'd be more alright than if touching starts to happen. Things go downhill pretty fast when there's touching.

[Disconected]

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[Wonder.]

If a girl is in a relationship with a man then what sense does it make to go flirt with other people. I wouldn't date anyone who did that. To me, that shows disrespect.

[Ryhanna]

It depends on the guy and how he is with it.
Like, I get a little jealous when my girlfriend even talks to other guys (But, then, she's a little bit of a...... drifter, is an okay word to say...)
Ask him how he feels, I guess. Only way you'll know for sure.

[AllThatIsLeft]

I think you're all misinterpreting the thing a bit. I agree. It's not like i'd go out of my way to go flirt with other guys.

and yes I would watch what I do or say. But part of my personality is being a flirt. I don't just do it with guys, I do it in general.
and half the time I don't realize.

hmm I don't know, I'd just hate for things to go wrong for something I may not be able to control entirely.

But thanks for the input, it does give me some insight. and if anyone else has something to say go right ahead.

[Ryhanna]

Yeah, I get it Paula, you have flirty personality :P it's a common trait ;)
I mean, if he's a jealous type it's going to be kind of hard,but if he's cool with it then alls good, I guess.
Be open and honest, Dr. Phil tells me thats the way to a "lowng, laasting relaytionshhip"
lol

[Evermore]

I'm pretty sure i'd be fine with it if it stays casual and there's not to much touching involved.

[Strength]

it would irritate me. and i think it annoys most guys to be honest.

[Scarface]

i don't think it would bother me as long as i doesn't get serious. then i would be quite pissed

[Gumleaf]

i think it would be different for each guy paula depending on his personality and security. for me it would bother me, but thats taking into account that i'm very insecure and need a lot of reassurance about relationships. but i think most guys would expect you to peg back with it, whether they actually told you that or not. once a guy is in a relationship, the majority don't take kindly to their girlfriend flirting with other guys, knowingly or otherwise. however, i would also say that if you had a boyfriend who really knew you, he would know that its part of your personality to flirt a little so he should be able to accept that. i hope that made some sense paula?

[Kaius]

I would expect her to stop for my sake. When it comes to relationships at times i can be quite insecure/Jealous if I'm in that position, speaking from experience. Although if she's always been that sort of person who'd playfully flirt I'd try to be as normal as possible about it as long as it wasn't openly in your face sort of flirting.

Yeah, I'd say the insecurity is on my part, although past girlfriends have influenced that greatly. My current girlfriend, I actually feel very at ease with because I'm able to trust her a lot easier than I expected. Purely because I've had that trust knocked quite a few times, I was convinced It would keep happening. Although its not always the case. I suppose its just the type of people that are involved in the relationship and what the background of each person is.

[overcome.]

I'd expect her not to be over the top flirty, mainly infront of me as it's kinda insulting. I doubt she'd like that if I did it to another girl. I'm a lot more easy going that I used to be, I'd appreciate that she's my girlfriend and if I trusted her then that's all that matters. At the end of the day some people have flirty personalities, can be touchy-feely, some aren't that way. I'm not a pushover, but there's nothing wrong with being friendly and a little flirty as long as you respect the fact that you're in a relationship and don't go too far.

[KillerKing]

As long as it didnt get out of hand with guys then i wouldn't really mind

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

XD I think you should lock this now Paula, before it hits millions. XD

[JDB_95]

I'd ask her to cut it down a lil bit bt i wouldn't mind her flirting to much

[AllThatIsLeft]

^.^ Thanks guys this helped a lot. :)

[Hatsune Miku]

I wouldn't mind. If shes flirting without even realizing it then its not like she was purposely flirting.

( 1+ post. Fack yeah! )

[lesher]

Even if the girl honestly did that unintentionally, how can she prove it? I mean, unintentional flirt can lead to another thing, and then next, next, next..... (for example: falling in love)

So, I wouldn't be surprised if the guy feels insecure and need the girl to change

[CuriousDestruction]

it really depends on a lot of things. the type of guy/girl you are. how much flirting. in what way. etc. personally, if it wasn't really seeming too intentional i'd be okay with it cuz it's part of her/his personality. but if it got to be too much i'd ask them to stop cuz i was uncomfortable with it.

[Dylan_dumb_blond]

Well people say that guys shouldn't get jealous but if u think about it if a guy gets jealous over u that means he loves and cares about u but that's me and wat I beleive