Is This Allowed?

[Pudd]

My dad works for my German and History teacher (She teaches both classes) as a joiner. To cut a long story short, she basically made my parents almost split up because she said to my dad outside of school, without even being asked
"He seems to lack in effort and motivation" Which i do lack in motivation, but i put a hell of a lot of effort into my work.
This triggered an argument with my mum and dad on the way into town today where dad stopped the car and mum got out and started walking home (We were about 30 miles away from home) and my dad carried on towards town which was a further 50 miles away. I got out of the car and sat on a grass bank waiting for a car to go past to hitch a lift home, but after an hour my dad turned up again and told me to get in the car. When we caught up with my mum, she refused to get in the car and my dad said
"Fine if you dont want me any more, just take your son home" This went on for about 40 minutes until mum finally got into the car and we went home, then dad left at about 11:30 AM and didnt arrive back until 6:30 PM.

The main point is:
Is my teacher allowed to discuss school matters out of school to my parents, without them asking for it.
And i'm extremely mad at her, she was almost responsible for ruining my family, would it be possible to arrange for a different teacher or to drop the classes completely?

Thanks.

[INFERNO]

Yes your teacher is allowed to report to your parents how you are performing in school. Consider it from the other view, suppose the teacher didn't do this and your grades kept slipping. Since you didn't tell your parents now, you may or may not tell them later when the grades are worse. If the parents ask your teacher why he/she said nothing about it, then that seems irresponsible on account of the teacher. The teachers not only have to ensure you're safe at school but if you're doing very badly or if you're not trying despite having the capacity to succeed if you do try, then the teacher may suspect something is going on and talk to your parents. As much as you hate your teacher, he/she did what was needed.

Also, the conflict between your parents was not something I suppose the teacher intended. As much as you may hate to read this, it was the fault of your parents for fighting between each other. The teacher had no influence in how your parents received the information nor did the teacher have any influence in whether your parents almost split up when your parents and yourself were off school grounds. That issue is between your parents, not the teacher.

[Pudd]

My grades werent slipping though. They are staying the same. Its because in one class last week, we had to memorise an A4 sheet of german vocab, which i had done a bit of, but not all, since i had after school art projects and didnt get back until 6-7 each night, and had other homework to do, such as a critical essay for english, some 13 questions of maths and an 8 mark essay for history, as well as some enquiry skills work.
So when we had to write out the memorised vocab, i couldnt do it all. But that doesnt warrant talking to my dad about. Also she lied to him, she said to him that she said to me:

"Why do you do this, becuase you know im going to tell your dad about it" To which i supposedly replied:
"I know you will."

Which is a load of BS, she never said that to me, and if she did i wouldnt have said that.

[belfordrocks]

The best thing to do here is to explain to your German teacher in a serious but dignified tone that what she said was inapropriate (but don't be rude). Ask her to explain to you why the comment was made- as in, why she thinks you're motivation and effort are lacking, and what thing(s) made her come to that conclusion.

Good luck though

[Pudd]

I'll do that, thanks belfordrocks