I'm happy, sad and scared all because of a girl

[Wonder.]

Let me start off by saying that I am not attracted to girls. Except for this one.

Earlier this week one of my friends was scared to ask this one girl out (who is one of my other friends). He finally asked her out on Thursday and she took a while to answer. She said yes. I am happy that they are together. I really am but she is different to me. I believe I am gay but she is like an exception or something. I really do love her. I'm not trying to "steal" her away from him but I am afraid I'm going to do something stupid. I have been starting to show my feelings for her even though I try my hardest not to. I don't know. I need to hold myself back from talking/seeing her.

Can anyone please help me?

Also, if you are gay, have you ever felt like there was an exception for someone of the opposite sex for you?

[Harley Quinn]

I believe I am gay but she is like an exception or something. I really do love her.
i was in the same situation a few months ago actually, i believed i was gay and that i wouldn't ever like a boy. Then when i got close to him, he had a girlfriend and tbh i didn't like her all that much because she treated him like a piece of shit so i was there for him. I was going though like a phase of confusion and it was because i liked this one boy. It was like 'what the hell am i doing, this is all too confusing'
I have been starting to show my feelings for her even though I try my hardest not to. I don't know. I need to hold myself back from talking/seeing her.
I did that and in the end it didn't work.. and i ended up admitting to him, i think the best thing to do is talk to her about it because that's the only way you can perhaps deal with what you are feeling. if she is your friend i doubt she'll go ape shit at you for telling her this. Everyone gets confused by feelings once in awhile.
Also, if you are gay, have you ever felt like there was an exception for someone of the opposite sex for you?
yes, and now...i'm in a relationship with him. i believed i was gay, then everything changed. Sure i still like girls, but i love him.
If you ever need to talk to someone that gets what you're going through, i'm here for you. PM me if you need.

[Frankenstein's Bride]

If you explain things to her then i'm pretty sure she'll go out with you. On the other hand, don't break up her relationship. If it's meant to be it will happen by itself. Wait until she is single and then confess how you feel.

[IanMilo]

personally i think there could very well be one guy and one girl for everyone....why not? because people who are straight arent straight....studies show everyone has had an attraction to the same sex therefor noboody is 100% straight so i find that plausible

[kiki776]

wow if u lov her dat bad den show her

[Contra]

Well, if she and your friend are in a relationship now, you should wait for the development of the relationship. When (and if) they break up, you can confess your feelings and see how she reacts.
Until then, try hard not to let your feelings out too soon and ruin your friendship. I know it's hard, but just try. :)

[Wonder.]

Update: They broke up. She was under a lot of pressure to say yes and she just wasn't happy for the three days they were together.

She doesn't know I'm gay. Not planning on telling anyone soon.

I don't really want to date, just get it off of my chest.


So with the new information, what do you think?

[MyNameIsJack]

First talk to your friend and tell him that you think you might have feelings for her, tell him that you wanted to talk with him first because you dont want to loose his friendship