my girlfriend

[ZFX86]

with my girlfriend I am always in a constant battle for her time. She always has somewhere to be or something to do and before I can even ask if I could accompany her she is gone.

I understand a girl needs her friends too but if I ask her if she wants to do something together on the weekend she gives me a whole list of things she has arranged and tells me she can't.

this is really upsetting because she tells me that she loves me and wants to be with me. she means so much to me and it would be horrible to lose her but I need her more than she knows.

what can I do... the spark has gone between us. I miss the times when the tingles ran up my spine when she held my hand. thank you for your help

[Mr. Smithers]

Maybe you have to accept the fact that she does have a life. She might not always be available. Just because she has other things to do, doesn't mean she doesn't love you anymore.

Spend time with her when she hasn't got things to do.

[Kaius]

with my girlfriend I am always in a constant battle for her time. She always has somewhere to be or something to do and before I can even ask if I could accompany her she is gone.

I understand a girl needs her friends too but if I ask her if she wants to do something together on the weekend she gives me a whole list of things she has arranged and tells me she can't.

this is really upsetting because she tells me that she loves me and wants to be with me. she means so much to me and it would be horrible to lose her but I need her more than she knows.

what can I do... the spark has gone between us. I miss the times when the tingles ran up my spine when she held my hand. thank you for your help

I've been here, It's really not easy to handle. Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about how you feel about it? Most importantly, has her behaviour changed around you? From experience, i found out when this started happening with my previous two girlfriends, they had lost interest, one even went as far as finding somebody else. My advice to you is sit down, talk with her. Next time she tries to tell you she's doing something, stand firm. Either question it and ask her to make time for you as you are her boyfriend, or ask her when she is free next. Try not to appear too clingy, this is more likely to put her off than pull her in. Just tell her how much you miss spending time with her and that it doesn't feel the same as it used to. Hopefully she'll open up a little with you. Chances are though, she is just very busy. There are things you need to take into consideration. Her age may mean she'll be out later with friends, she may have a job, or homework, or maybe it really is just social occasions with friends.
If you need to talk, feel free to PM me. I find it helps to talk to people who have had similar experiences.