My Dad

[TAC1]

My dad and I have never had a good relationship. His is always negative and is always the "innocent one". He pisses me off so much recently and never has anything good to say. I've gotten into multiple fights with him before and so has my mother. I don''t even know why they're still married. He doesn't care about anyone but himself and is SO stingy. My dad has had a bad childhood though and I think that's having an effect on his parenthood.
My friend said that her dad went through the same thing when he was younger and is now suffering with PTSD. She says that he's changing with medication and therapy. But I know my dad won't do it, because he thinks that he's the "superior" of the house but he doesn't do crap except complain.

I can't take it anymore and I'm at my breaking point! I need help on how I can send him to see if he's suffering with PTSD and some encouragement so I won't go crazy on him.

[Mr. Smithers]

Well if you dad doesn't want to go through therapy, then there is nothing than you can do about that. You can try and spend more time with him so you guys can get along better. Maybe you can talk to your mother about him. There is a chance that you can do some family therapy.

But try doing something that you both would enjoy. Fishing, going bowling. Playing basketball anything that you guys can do together.

[TAC1]

I've tried working with him and doing things with him.But anytime we do anything he either quits or gets an attitude if Im not doing it 'right' or" to his standards"

[Alec75]

if he says you're not doing it right, try doing something simple, that you think he wouldnt say something like that, like dominoes? or just try to talk to him both sitting down in your house. open up to him tell him how you feel.

[INFERNO]

Unfortunately, if your father does not want to cooperate to be assessed, then under most legal conditions he cant have one done on him (I can think of one where it may be possible despite his refusal) and his lack of cooperation would skew the results so much they'd be meaningless. Medication on its own can reduce the symptoms tremendously no matter how severe his possible PTSD may be, so that's not the concern, the concern is if he will take them regularly and properly (i.e. without causing drug-drug interactions). Psychotherapy though would be a concern if he's very uncooperative and although one can hospitalize him against his will, doing so because he's pessimistic and uncooperative with family probably won't happen.

Despite his aggression, it's a two-way street; he may be annoying you but you may be annoying him in a way that causes him to criticize how you're doing something. In other words, if he receives aggression a lot, chances are he's going to give aggression. Having a poor childhood doesn't help him on this either.

Why not try doing something he likes or wants to do? Maybe try a hobby or sport he liked years ago but forgot about, as he may like it?

[TakeMyHand]

This reminds me of my dad. He always acted like he was so superior to everyone else, that nothing anyone did was ever good enough, yet he never actually did a damn thing himself. Luckily my mom left him when I was 8 so I didn't have to live under his influence for long. I'm not sure if you really would want to just get away from him or help him though, at this point you're old enough you might be able to help, but of course that's only if you actually want to.