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[Sheilamarie]

my friend cuts! how should i stop her???

[munchausen]

Simply put you're asking the wrong question, you can't actually stop her from doing this self harm is something you have to want to recover from. All you can really do is be there for her and support her as she goes through this. Let her know she has a friend and just stick by her. Lots of people who find out will give up on her, just make sure she has someone.

[Asylum]

be there for her... talk to her... when she has the urge tlk to her try to calm her down... thats all you can really do..

[BeautifulDisaster]

All you can do is a be a friend to her.
Don't judge her for it.
Don't treat her differently for it.
Don't pick on her for it.
Don't use it against her.
Don't bribe her.
She will find a way to do it, every self harmer does, all you can try to do is support her and give her other techniques instead of self harming to cope.
Suggest therapy.
If she begins to talk about suicide, or feeling very low, I would tell her parents, or a counselor, and ask her to talk to someone.
I know it may seem like betraying her trust, but it may actually save her life.
But that's only if you see those sort of signs.
She needs to make the choice of stopping, she needs to make the choice of recovering, her only.
No one can force that on her, it's a personal choice.

[CuriousDestruction]

it's a lot more complicated than that. does she know you know? her parents know? does she see a therapist or psychiatrist? how close are you to her? you need to give us many more details before i can give you specific advice. the only thing i can say now is to talk to her about it and let her know that you care about her and don't want her hurt.

[georgiamay]

all you can do really is be there for her. let her know that you are there when she needs someone to talk to. talk to her and dont push her to stop.

make sure your a good friend, and be her shoulder to cry on, that's all you can do, along with suggesting that she gets help, but dont push her to do it. it's her own choice.

good luck :)

[NamelessRomantic]

Stay with her.Be there.Just don`t leave,and don`t rush her.It won`t work.No more can be said.

[Pirate]

Simply put you're asking the wrong question,

Exactly. What you should be focussing on is WHY she's doing it.
Accept that she does it, because she's not going to stop if you rant and rave and get upset with her (not saying that you have done, but just for the record)
If she feels accepted, she'll feel more equal to you and you'll be able to level with her easier. Also, she'll hopefully open up.
Also, be patient, because these things take time and she may relapse if she does quit.