how is it supposed to hlep?

[Asylum]

so my boyfriend decided that we should take a break... he thinks it will hlep our relationship.... because we've been fighting and not speaking for awhil... so how is more lack of cmmuniction going to help our problem of lack of communication.? and what makes takin a break different from a break up? same thing really we are both "single". and now avoiding each other and more not speaking... as you can tell im not taking the break well..... :(

[Magus]

"speech is silver, silence is gold"

If you keep the stove, the water in the pot will keep boiling. If you shut off the stove, water will stop boiling the second you shut it.

I am not recommending this, but it is good to have a moment of peace between you two.

The boy has a life and so you do(something wrong in this sentence? If yes, then fix it please/Sieg Heil). Try to think of your life first, your mainstream path.

[Asylum]

no not talking doens' help...
good point... but the fights weren't like random just to fight, i had a right for my concerns....
well you really can't recommend the break because it happened :(

[Englishrose]

If you have attempted to sort the communication problem out with communication in the past and it hasn't worked maybe this is a good alternative. Spending some time apart with your own friends always does a world of good, and you realise just how much you need the other person in your life when they aren't there.

However, I've got to say, in the majority of cases, when someone wants a break, it is just an easy and painless way to break up with someone without hurting them.

[Asylum]

no... we used to talk every night and day... it was like non stop always texting always iming always in person like never a day wihtout a conversation. then this month things changed... probably because of the play... and this was b4 we started dating then for 7 months it continued 8th month was a fail...

i made an effort to tlak to him today. he made it very akward, so after the short hi... and good luck or good job i talked to his mom and grandmom i love them, they are like my second family. however she made it awkward because she was like i need a picture of you too! after she called him over andthen she told him to hug my or put his arm around me... he acted like he didn't want to... understandable.. then he scurried off real quick "to get changed* very awkward... supressing my own emotions wasn't as bad as i thought :) like i was so nervous and in the ahhh avoid look away stage, but now i can supress awkward hurt feeligns and just be happy.. well i'm not really happhy.. but it looks liek it and i sort of ahve more of an enjoyable time wiht people when i do that... sucks at night though... to be honest it hasn't really struck me that we aren't together... its weird i still feel like we are... i knwo i have to keep reminding myself.. which hurts ... and plus like arghh wehn it hits me at night... geez.. not good espeically when i'm dealign with other issues like parents...

[Englishrose]

Sorry, I'm going to have to be brutally honest here, it really does sounds like he doesn't just want a short break, he wants it to be permanent. I think the best thing for you to do now would be to talk to him. He's being awkward in person so maybe try texting him, be blunt and honest. Tell him you think your falling apart and directly ask him if he is ever going to get back with you. Don't let him string you along. The sooner you find out where you stand, the sooner you can either move on, or try sorting it out.

[Asylum]

today after the play he told me he missed me, and as soon as the last performance is over we are going to talk about geting back together :D ahhhhh!!!!!!! so happy!!

[Englishrose]

I'm happy things have worked out for you. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Good luck in your relationship.

[Nelson]

Gz. Hope things work out for the better :D