Cheating, how do I get over it?

[hardcore-smile]

So in sept my boyfriend told this girl that he has made out with that he misses her and they should hangout and he wants a big hug and a kiss on the cheek (that's our thing btw) and then she said "but u have a gf" and he said "so? That never stopped u before, besides she cheated on me before(we were broken up) so it's kinda like I get a free pass, do u really care about her?" and she said no then he said "I've always wanted to do shit with you" then when she didn't answer him back he said shit like "oh Britt you know I wouldn't do that u know I'm not mean like that I was just joking" then in dec he talked to her agian and told her he would "text her<3" I found out that the day he said all that was the day I fell asleep in his arms, it hurts so bad :'( I want to stay with him but it's so hard, we fight every single day and I hate it please please please I need some advice :( how do I get over it? What should I do?

[Mr. Smithers]

You have to make the decision in which would be to stay with him, trust that he will be faithful to you and you only, or if you believe that he is interested in this other girl, leave him.

I can't tell you what decision to make, but I hope you make the right one.

[songboy]

well ummm I guess alll I can say is DUMP HIM

[AllThatIsLeft]

Don't try to work this out. Seriously. This guy is a jerk. You should break up with him, and don't ever feel guilty about it.
If he's telling that to other girls while with you, it really isn't worth it.
Having someone is about Love, Trust, Confidence, and above all Loyalty.
I see none of that here. and It will only end up hurting you.

[hardcore-smile]

I don't want advice on dumping him guys I want advice on staying with him and getting over this please help

[AllThatIsLeft]

You have to face that if you're gonna stay with him, it's going to bring you a lot of pain. and If you want to have no respect for yourself, you just have to turn a blind eye, and pretend none of it it's happening.

[thiscityisdead]

not necessarily paula ^^, many people have been in the same problem not saying you wanna be there but you can work through it, next time you see him just sit him DOWN and TALK to him, literally talk to him, ask him whats going on you need to figure this out and say that it hurts that you cheated but not only that you guys fight everyday and your sick of it be like i love you but we NEED to work this out.

i wish you the best of luck, PM if you wanna talk.

[Englishrose]

I am and always have been of the opinion that once a cheat always a cheat. He went with another girl, which meant that he has a wandering eye. Your always going to be thinking who is he with, what is he doing. The trust has been broken and its really hard to rebuild. You've now got to try and see whether you think the relationship is worth all the pain.

[Dyl.l.]

Just try to get over it and there is a lot more fish in the sea.

[Perfectly Flawed]

I know you want advice on how to stay with him, but honestly all he will do is hurt you more until he decides to break up.

[Bluesman]

You have two choices here. Stay with him, and trust that he will never cheat, or break up with him, and realize that he really hurt you. I can't give you advice on staying with him, because (personally) I think that is a ridiculous idea, but what I can give you is some things to consider. Can you trust him that he will never do it again? Can you trust him to be completely honest with you? Can you trust him to be faithful to you? Can you trust him to be there for you no matter what? My point is, if you can't answer every one of those questions with a definitive "yes", then your only real option is to break up. I know you don't want to hear that, but as everyone else here has said, it's the truth. Sometimes your only option is realize he's never going to change, and civilly end it because of that. It may be easier to deal with the pain of letting him go than it is to watch him treat you terribly.