She suddenly wants to be "just friends"

[krst451]

I met this girl a few months ago. We'd been hanging out as part of a group for a while, then recently started just hanging out together and texting each other basically all day.

After a few weeks of this, I asked if she wanted to be more than friends, and she did. We went on two dates after that. After the first one, she went on about how much fun she had and how she couldn't wait to see me again. She seemed really excited about me in general ("I had so much fun last night" etc.). But, after the second one, I asked her if she had fun, but she just said she was "struggling with the more than friends thing".

I tried to give her some time to think, but I couldn't help it and started asking questions. The only reason she would give is that she "thought she liked me that way, but now she doesn't think she does". When I asked her what caused her to change her mind, she said "You're cute, interesting, nice, and funny, so I don't really know why I don't like you in that way."

So, I was just wondering if anyone could give me some insight into what could possibly be going through her mind. I don't understand how she can list a bunch of reasons to like me, but then say that she doesn't.

I'm just so confused, and I feel like there must be something she isn't telling me. It's like she instantly went from being all excited to "feeling awkward".

Most importantly, I'm wondering if there's any hope...

Thanks!

[Mr. Smithers]

My guess is that she doesn't think you guys can connect romantically. She just wants to remain friends. Don't know if it is because you are not her type, or if she is seeing somebody else. But that's my opinion.

[Evermore]

She's lying. She liked you at first but now she doesn't? You didn't change and neither did she. It could be any number of things. Did you say anything she might not of agreed with? Did you get a hair cut/have bad breath/ or tell her your into something that can be thought of as nerdy? Cause she felt the "spark" earlier but now she doesn't? It's either one of the above or she met a different guy.

If she gives you the just friends speech, she's not into and she won't be for a while. If you still feel like you need her then just be the best friend you can be. It's better then nothing and the closest you're gonna get.

[Katrina]

In my opinion she just wants to be friends with you, not the extra part. This can be due to her being more confused than what you are now. She might have pondered over the subject and came to this decision. This can be due to her being more on the indecisive kind.
But still do not lose hope and you go on with what you want.

[Gumleaf]

i agree with what katrina has said above. the only thing i would add is that all hope is not gone. i think she might have found that she is not ready for a relationship yet. give her some space and continue to be her friend. perhaps when she is ready she might want more again, but don't push the point because that would quite possibly turn her off you more.

[tyciol]

Friendship is great, there's a great book out there on all sorts of different kind of love that you can enjoy so it's okay if it's not romantic. C.S. Lewis (Chronicles of Narnia) wrote this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Loves