What the heck!

[Marcie]

Apparently my ever gracious mother has told my entire family about my cutting. And apparently every single time I'm in the bathroom for more than 5minutes they think I'm sitting in there cutting!
Why on earth would she go and tell my whole family that?!!
Gha! I hate my life!

[Harley Quinn]

Maybe. Quite possibly. See cares about what you do to your body.
She's a mum, she needs help with how to help you.
Therefore she tells others, but hey at least it was family and not random strangers.
It sucks I know but life is like that.
:hug:

[georgiamay]

oh that sucks :( i was quite lucky, my parents only told my nan and one of my aunts, but thats it... i feel so sorry for you, i know it feels really crap right now, but it seems like she cares about you, and she only wants you to get as much help as possible, so she tells other people to see if they can help you, and so they can help her help you.

PM me if you ever need to talk x

[Marcie]

Maybe. Quite possibly. See cares about what you do to your body.
She's a mum, she needs help with how to help you.
Therefore she tells others, but hey at least it was family and not random strangers.
It sucks I know but life is like that.
:hug:

She has told others from my church though..

oh that sucks :( i was quite lucky, my parents only told my nan and one of my aunts, but thats it... i feel so sorry for you, i know it feels really crap right now, but it seems like she cares about you, and she only wants you to get as much help as possible, so she tells other people to see if they can help you, and so they can help her help you.

PM me if you ever need to talk x
My nine year old brother, and twelve year old sister? I don't think telling him is going to help anything.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

Maybe this is the sign that it's time to stop cutting, it truly doesn't help, I used to cut.

As for everyone else..It'll take a while before they settle down, but they're only worried about you.

[Marcie]

Maybe this is the sign that it's time to stop cutting, it truly doesn't help, I used to cut.

As for everyone else..It'll take a while before they settle down, but they're only worried about you.

Well if you take a look at this post, (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=67396) then you will see that I have stopped.

[Black or White]

Well if you take a look at this post, (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=67396) then you will see that I have stopped.

Glad to hear so :)

In order for your family to not think nothing again you will have to tell them you have stopped fully and make sure you dont ever go back to it and live with whatever they may think for the time being.

To be honest I think you will only get one chance with this, if you keep going back to it then they will never believe you when you stop and therefore always think something.

[Marcie]

Glad to hear so :)

In order for your family to not think nothing again you will have to tell them you have stopped fully and make sure you dont ever go back to it and live with whatever they may think for the time being.

To be honest I think you will only get one chance with this, if you keep going back to it then they will never believe you when you stop and therefore always think something.

I have said that, they don't believe me.. even though I've showed then nearly every inch of my cut-free skin. Not around my genitals of course but who would cut that??

[CuriousDestruction]

well, im glad you don't cut your genitals^^ but i see your problem. i hate when parents do that. she probably thinks it's in your best interest, or she's probably just freaking out. i would be too if my kid was cutting. you could talk to your family about it, or just be open about it at least. makes things less awkward.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

Well if you take a look at this post, (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=67396) then you will see that I have stopped.

Sorry, my mistake, but that's good. =]

[BeautifulDisaster]

Yeah, I don't think that was good of her to do, it causes more problems(or has done for me).

I'd sit down and talk to her about it, explain how you feel about this, be clear and firm, but try to remain calm.

I know it's frustrating, been in the same position, but try to remember maybe she's feeling overwhelmed with bearing this and she had to tell others?

Not sure, but talk to her about it, ask her why she did it, and explain how it's affected you.

[Marcie]

Yeah, I don't think that was good of her to do, it causes more problems(or has done for me).

yeah it really does..

I'd sit down and talk to her about it, explain how you feel about this, be clear and firm, but try to remain calm.
I did.. She doesn't really care..


I know it's frustrating, been in the same position, but try to remember maybe she's feeling overwhelmed with bearing this and she had to tell others?
Despite the fact I specifically asked her not to..


Not sure, but talk to her about it, ask her why she did it, and explain how it's affected you.
She doesn't care, I've tried all this already.

By the way BeautifulDisaster, I love your avatar :-)

[Asylum]

geez... that sucks.. i'm so sorry*huggles* she thinks she is helping you... she cares and just wnts to help you. tellgn people about it she thiinks probably will make htem concerned and eventually u'll stop under peer pressure? or it shows hey... a lot of people want me to stop... they must care about me..

[BeautifulDisaster]

Well, sometimes people tell others things despite being asked not to because it's too much for them to keep to themselves.

Just a thought. Does not make this any better though.

I'd suggest keeping the topic of self harm at bay around family, if they bring it up, just explain you don't want to talk about it, if they persist, walk away.

And thank you. :)

[Marcie]

tellgn people about it she thiinks probably will make htem concerned and eventually u'll stop under peer pressure?
Well that's nice..
or it shows hey... a lot of people want me to stop... they must care about me..
I don't think that's a very good way to show it..


Well, sometimes people tell others things despite being asked not to because it's too much for them to keep to themselves.
Then I guess I can't really trust her at all, if she's going to spill my secretes when I've specifically told her not to.



I'd suggest keeping the topic of self harm at bay around family, if they bring it up, just explain you don't want to talk about it, if they persist, walk away.
I try that, but if I walk away from either one of my parents I'll be yelled at and I'll get punished. (I'll probably lose my phone/computer privileges for a month or so)


And thank you. :)
You are welcome :-)

[BeautifulDisaster]

Well, perhaps instead of walking away, if they keep harping on at you about the self harming, either change the subject, or ignore them and do something else.

[Marcie]

Well, perhaps instead of walking away, if they keep harping on at you about the self harming, either change the subject, or ignore them and do something else.

I can't change the subject, they don't let me..
Hah, if I ignore them worse things will happen. When they are talking to me I have to talk back.

[BeautifulDisaster]

They don't sound all that good of parents then, could you move out?

[Asylum]

i know it doesn't seem good, bcuse it isn't, but everyone has different views maybe she thought it was a good thing to go telling everyone... it isn't good at all, doens't help in the end, and it was wrong of her to do so... its your buisness not hers to share.

[Marcie]

They don't sound all that good of parents then, could you move out?
I can move out, in fact my dad has said several times that he would make me live somewhere else. He has also said that if I want to move out at any point I can they will give me permission and all that, I need permission to move out from them seeing as though I'm only 16.


i know it doesn't seem good, bcuse it isn't, but everyone has different views maybe she thought it was a good thing to go telling everyone... it isn't good at all, doens't help in the end, and it was wrong of her to do so... its your buisness not hers to share.
And even less her business because I asked her not to and she said she wouldn't!

[starbrite5]

The situation sucks, I admit. Maybe your mom thought she helping in some odd way. In my experience, moms do the weirdest things because they think it will help, when really it doesn't do shit. And sometimes, makes things worse.